I believe that a core component of successful partnerships in romantic relationships is the predetermined disposition of each individual to build kindred community among each other. More specifically, I believe that successful relationships--especially romantic ones--succeed when individuals are willing to give 100% with the dependency of spontaneous reciprocity, co-building something larger than the sum of the individuals themselves. Certainly, how individuals dedicate themselves to a common cause varies among different types of relationships, whether romantic, friendly, business, or otherwise. Currently, I'm searching for permaculture community of all types. I started a thread in the intentional community forum (
https://permies.com/t/367646/Man-homestead-seeking-permaculture-community), but I decided to also post here, as I also desire that special permaculture woman. Please check out the linked thread for some basic details about me, my situation, and goals.
So, what about this "yes, and..." philosophy? I'm still understanding what it means, but here's my basic conclusion: Community of any kind should be at the very least additive, at worst divisive, and at best synergistic--being something beyond the sum of the parts. Community has many forms and all have their places. My goal is synergy among the individual contributions--an elusive goal to be sure. I view a romantic partnership not as a replacement for other elements of community but as the addition of something superior yet complimentary to the existing components. In practice, I'm very much still learning what this means. I have had many failures, a few successes, and other simply notable outcomes. But I know that I want to be with a woman who also is looking to build something bigger than herself and who sees permaculture as both a philosophical and pragmatic framework to build that bigger thing. I'm looking for a woman who sees a romantic relationship not only as intrinsically valuable itself but also as a platform of partnership for building additional community in the permaculture context. In my particular case, I'd like for this platform of partnership to include having children, but the building of additional community involves many other aspects too: making friends, growing intentional community, and being an apostle of permaculture are a few examples.
I suppose that I should include a few additional concrete details about myself here. Please check out my other post linked above for additional details. I'm about 6'2" (193 cm) and I have good teeth. (Evidently these details are important lol.) I have a somewhat muscular build but with a bit of fat around the midsection. But I can and do work hard outside. I live in northern Michigan near the tip of the lower peninsula. I own my land and home and have started the process of permaculture there. I'd like to stay where I'm currently located, though I can certainly travel to visit. I'm reluctant to share a photo of myself here just because it will be on the Internet for literally forever, thanks to the Wayback Machine (
https://web.archive.org/). But I'd be happy to share a portrait of myself via some other means or have a video call at some point. Also, historically, I haven't done a good job at responding to inquiries, but I will do my best to respond in at least a day or two if you reach out. Feel free to reach out here, to send me a PM, or to email me at
capped_magnesium667@simplelogin.com.
