Bj Murrey

Maritt Vaessin wrote:I have curiosity towards Missouri to be candid. Less end time bombs coming, the best soil I’ve seen and clean water a pumping for now

Missouri is great for farming! Bad for tornadoes! I do like that it's got 4 seasons, and it's sparsely populated over most of the state. I hate the big cities - but that's true anywhere for me. I'd love to have a place that had some source of water on it - a creek , pond, river, etc.

"Less end time bombs coming" - I'm not sure if you mean that from the local churches' teachings or from literal bombs from outside the states. Either way, probably correct. :)

My name is BJ. I posted here (https://permies.com/t/51865/single-dallas-tx) years ago when I first started my off grid life - It's been 12 years now!

I am still looking to meet a woman who is like-minded in living simply, isn't caught up in "pop-culture" and who desires to live a simple, quiet life and work the land with me.

Most of my "free time" is building things, hiking or camping in cool places around the country, and enjoying entertaining a few friends wherever.

Ideally, I'd like to meet a woman who is "old-school American" (conservative, not interested in "liberalism" or "progressivism", who is already working on herself daily, to be more like Jesus). I am a Christian, who wants to be more like Jesus and less like the "world" around me. I am a seminary graduate, and love to study the scriptures at a scholarly level (in Greek and Hebrew) and help others understand it clearly. I rarely "go to church" anymore - it's challenging to listen to "pastors" who have not studied the languages, teach things the bible doesn't say at all. I don't let that stop me from my own pursuit of Jesus. It's a daily event that I have deep conversation with others about the scriptures - usually disenfranchised former "church goers" who want to know God but have lost all trust in the church, pastors, etc. I don't blame them at all. I understand. I consider it "missionary work". Reaching the people immediately around me day-to-day.

I built my solar powered, rain watered, off grid homestead, alone, from the ground up. I've never had any "meters" on my property or a mortgage. I am interested in selling my current place, in the next year or so, and buying more land elsewhere (N. Tex, Oklahoma, or southern Colorado) and building the last home I will ever live in (hopefully). It would be nice to start that journey with someone - I made the mistake of "not finishing" my place now while I was dating a couple of different times, because I wanted her to have a place of her own, rather than just moving into my world - that was a mistake. lol

Professionally I remodel homes and do "handyman" work. I am a problem solver and enjoy fixing things for people. I mostly work for people I know, which is great. I have been self-employed since I was 21. I will never be a "corporate worker" or anything that goes along with that lifestyle - it is absolutely a lifestyle.

I value things that last - like wisdom - and things you can't buy - like experiences. This is why I have been to 5 continents and 31 countries, but lately I have been mostly exploring the USA and all its amazing wonders. A road trip that is loosely planned is my favorite thing to do. Be there and let life happen. I'm not a "scheduler" or try to "control the world around me". I just live my own life and let the world do whatever it wants to. Most of my friends do not share my same ideas - which is why I love them. I like people who are different from me, but in a spouse it's essential to share the fundamentals. Like being a Christian, but NOT a charismatic or "end times" junkie (both of those are historic things, not present day - happy to discuss). I value eating well (healthy) from my own produce (as much as possible) but I also enjoy a good glass of wine or craft beer, on occasion, and ice cream more often ! But I am fit, not on any meds, and active every day - and hope to find someone who shares that - Not fat, not on "subscription meds" (ssri, birth control, hormones, anti-depressants, etc). I have zero interest in that kind of person. We live incompatible lifestyles. I'm not opposed to medical intervention to correct a problem, but it's a last resort and a temporary situation until you can regain self-control, in my view. I haven't been sick / ill since I built my home. I got bit by a copperhead and got antivenin - that's it. Maybe a headache that I took some excedrine for. I set my own broken bones, and glue myself shut as needed. Because I am a man. lol I know when I need help, and that is rare, but I have no problem asking for it. I just prefer to DIY out of convenience and speed.

My ideal woman is an "old school american woman" - Christian, homestead mindset, wants to spend the rest of her life with a forever friend they are attracted to, and build a life together. I dont care if she has kids or not, wants kids or not, etc. I'm pretty open to deciding on non-essentials together. I'm not a dictator and don't want a doormat - I like women who are smart, have things they are good at and interested in on their own, and who already are living their own life now. No one wants a "project" as a partner. I do understand we are all a work in progress to some degree, and that's different for everyone. I have always been very smart - so I work best with someone who is an "expert" in their own domains of life or who can converse competently across subjects - curious - that might be the best descriptor. Wants to know what they know that they don't know.

Presently I live on a 1 acre homestead with a 1100 sf. home. My plan is to sell it and buy 20+ acres elsewhere and start over. I own my life - all of it - and have plenty of resources to start the new venture - Suvs, motorcycle, RV, tools, materials, etc. I have learned so much over the last decade that I am looking forward to utilizing that for the next phase of life. Hoping to catch someone's attention who also finds these things above both interesting and desirable.

If you message me or reply, please post a picture too. We have to look at one another so that's pretty important :) I'd like to chat on the phone if we aren't close enough to meet up, sooner than later. I've made a lot of friends from dates that werent compatible partners, and enjoy meeting new people - but I am pretty focused here, given the niche audience. Thanks for your time!

Sonya Montgomery wrote:I was off-grid for 5 years, living the dream on 11 acres. Just me and the critters. And then covid...  Going it alone is hard. I had two young people who would come help me on the farm. They moved back in with their parents during the pandemic. With no other income and living on savings, after the pandemic was supposedly over, I eventually sold the property, with the solar panels, RV, and generator, and moved down to the smog-laden valley below to live in an apartment and working an 8-5. I'm not loving my life. But not to worry, I'm working my way back.

You experienced a life few ever will. You lost nothing. You gained something amazing. And more is waiting for you when youre ready if you want it.

The cool thing about life is you get to choose how to live it.

I admire you did it - and admire that you can also return to the grind as required. Press on! This isn't the end.

Hi! I sent you a message :). Thanks for saying hello and your kind words. You sound like a full, well-rounded woman! Always appreciate talking with like minded Christians about nature and Gods grace. :) happy new year!

I'm a christian (seminary graduate too) in Texas, and used to live in Guatemala and looove Latin america, and have been off grid for 11 years now on a little homestead if you want to chat.

Ududah George wrote:My name is Oghenebrorhie Ududah and I'm from Nigeria, I'm really new to homestead stuff and I am writing this for the few who are truly awake. I have spent my life watching the world chase digital ghosts, inflated careers, and 'achievements' that belong to the people in power, not to us. I see a planet that is empty and unexploited, while the masses ....
I am ready to walk away...
I am looking for a woman who is...
What I am looking for:..
A woman who values freedom over convenience. Someone who understands that our ancestors weren't 'primitive,' they were masters of reality. If you are tired of the 'career' lie and want to be a matriarch of a new foundation, let’s connect. I am not looking for a girlfriend; I am looking for a co-founder of a new way of living.
If you are ready to be a pioneer, reach out. The earth is waiting, and he clock of the system is ticking down."

I feel your words, brother. I understand what you are saying. Let me offer a couple of things I've noticed since j began sharing your sentiments.

1. There is no uncorrupted place on earth, because if you find one, you are there, and you are corrupted. The only uncorrupted place anyone can find, is the peace within themselves. I'm a Christian, so for me this is the peace Jesus promised when we seek his kingdom, first, along with no one else and nothing else, and only then, does he promise to add all we need to sustain us. Because I know Jesus never promises that there will be no pain Or problems in this world, I can live my life in spite of them and not take them personally or try to control them.

2. Ready to walk away: do it. If you're ready, you dont need to find a woman first. Live the life now, you know you're ready for, and the woman who is interested in these things will find you, and see you doing them, and join you. But if you met one now, while not doing them yet, she might see someone who is a wishful thinker, only.

3. A woman will never fix you, or fill up what you think is missing. No person can ever meet the inner feelings of another person. We alone are responsible for the feelings inside of us. Learn to deal with the ones you have now or you'll discover that no matter the person in your life you always feel the same way inside. Its you, not them.

4. The world and the system aren't "ticking down". They are winding up and just getting started! The world will never stop or change for you but you can change yourself at any time no matter what the world is doing or not doing around you.

Most of the people in most of the world are just as lost, and have nothing figured out, as anyone else in the world. The thing we do is focus on what others have that we dont have, and then despair that we dont have it , and think we must be doing something wrong or they are doing it right. The reality is they have different problems from us, but only the details.

I went off grid, alone, 11 years ago, and I haven't met anyone to share it with either. But I'm not living my life waiting for them, I'm just living my life. If I find someone to join me in it, great! If not, that's OK too because I am living , I have a life. And I'm pursuing the kinds of things I value and in those valued pursuits I'm more likely to find a woman who shares similar values.

Just some thoughts. I wish you well brother.

Phil Stevens wrote:Biochar, no-till, and deep mulching. My soil is a fine-grain silt loam and although its fertility is decent and I've used lots of compost over the years, the big change happened when I stopped digging, started adding biochar, and got into deep mulch with wood chips. Biochar adds structure and aeration that the unamended soil here is lacking, keeping it better hydrated during dry periods and preventing it from getting waterlogged and going anaerobic when it's wet for long spells. Avoiding disturbance helps preserve that structure as it develops, and this means all amendments go on top now - e.g. mulch.

The partial exceptions I make to the no-dig rule are around harvesting root crops like potatoes and kūmara, but even with these I don't hav.....

Well said! I 100% agree. It sounds like we have similar native  soils. I could do more biochar for sure, but I heat my house with wood so I tend to use it all inside :)

For me in north Texas, its been composting everything I can in place, and supplementing as I can with wood chips and manure. I went from straight sand in an oak forest to a foot deep of dark black soil full of life.over 10 years. Not hard work, and totally worth it. I prefer adding soil on top rather than trying to amend it in ground. Just my experience.

I bet its much colder up north!

I love the perspective. And I definitely resonate with what you wrote. And the chokes out in my garden now, can vouch for me. :)

God bless you friend.