Possibly the darker side of Distaff
We have some great images from around the world of people using distaves in medieval times. One of my favourites is the image (I can't find it now, but I saw it in
art history
class) where this bloke in or near Bagdad was sitting on the side of a tall building with his distaff and the drop spindle was hanging several stories below him.
Sometimes in England, we see the distaff being used as a weapon.
These are often cited as women beating her henpecked husband, but there's another interpretation. Maybe the woman is resisting unwanted interest from a suiter? Over a thousand years later, it's easy to put our own bias on these pictures.
Here's one YouTuber who shows how a distaff can be used to fend off unwanted attacks.
They've got more videos about self-defence and other medieval lifestyle issues. Love this channel but they don't make videos very often.