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Minnesota SF 50s seeking SM

 
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Hello Permie community.

I'm seeking a companion who is a good fit for me. Someone who is mindful of sustainability and climate change here in the land of 10,000 lakes. It's challenging to find a match on the dating apps. So many folks seem to be obsessed with status, or riding "Harleys," or golfing, or just disconnected from things like preparing or preventing climate change. I'm looking for someone...different.

I'm an old soul living the simple life in the shire. I'm like the female version of Frodo, (and maybe a wee bit cuter) and I'm looking for my Samwise Gamgee. A homebody by nature, I occasionally will get a wanderlust for spontaneous adventures. Frodo and Sam were really better together than they were apart.. Sam kept Frodo grounded and kept it real. And he was a fearless spider slayer. 😉

Readers caveat 🤔  Before you keep reading these are some deal breakers. I am NOT a good match for conservatives, evangelical, polyamorous, anti-vaxxed, or hard drinker types. Still reading?

About me:
I'm divorced, heterosexual, monogamous, and vaxxed. Short like a hobbit and plus sized, I'm a woman who is comfortable in her own skin at 50 something.  I'm a left leaning Gen-X tree hugger, bee protector, 13 years sober, open-minded Christian, justice seeker, and a believer in science. I am also a gun owner (with zero interest to carry). Everyone is complicated now days, and I am no exception to the rule. If MBTI is your thing, I'm an INFJ. Not a tomboy but also not afraid to get my hands dirty. For what it's worth, Belle is my favorite Disney princess. I see myself as a cross between Belle and Janeane Garofalo. 😆

I'm a caregiver to my mom, a grandmother to my grandkids, a property owner, and employed FT as a graphic designer.

Home is a modest house on a couple of acres surrounded by farmland and woods in central Minnesota, just north of Minneapolis. This is my forever home. My homestead includes a deep well and some attributes that would be desirable in case of a zombie apocalypse (kidding, but not really). The zombie apocalypse is more or less a general term for different what-if scenarios.

Lately I've been daydreaming of:
Road trips, camping in a Scamp, tiny home designs vs chicken coops, vertical gardening, raccoon proofing bird feeders, Bison well hand pumps, rocket stoves, water barrels, and what retirement might look like someday.

I'm more Mother Jones than keeping' up with the Joneses. Things that I'm passionate about are the environment, tribal sovereignty, social justice, human rights, reproductive rights, separation between church and state, just to name a few. I'm always looking to connect with others in the community that have like minds and like hearts.

Friendship is the basis of any relationship.
I gravitate towards deep thinkers, readers, nerds, makers, artists, philosophers, liberal minded veterans.
Ultimately, I'm seeking a partner, companion, and best friend for LTR preferably close in age. Sunsets here in the shire are amazing from my deck but also melancholy when there is no one to share them with. I appreciate someone who is handy and enjoys a good project, but can also chill and dive deep into conversations. A long distance relationship is not my goal. I'm divorced and have no desire to be married again.

Things I like:
State parks, music & art, festivals, street art, old card games, museums, vintage recipes, old movies, repurposed things, historical places, books including children's books and, of course, Tolkien.

My unapologetic choices for media are NPR and Reddit. I'm not a big fan of other social media platforms. I prefer for relationships to grow in person rather than online, but it can be a place to start.

I believe music can reveal a lot about a person.This list scratches the surface of some my favorites: bluegrass, hard rock, metal, electronic pop, oldies 40s, blues, folk, indie, reggae, hip hop and even rap. Artists include the Beatles, Gillian Welch, I Draw Slow, Chris Whitley, Ozzy, Aretha Franklin, Metallica, Billie Holiday, GnR, Chris Thile, Chaka Khan, Dean Martin, Loreena McKennitt, Led Zeppelin, Steel Drivers, Chvrches, Stevie Wonder, Tesla, Ice Cube, and Lizzo.

If any of this resonates with you, send me a "purple moosage" with an introduction and a photo. Let's see where the conversation takes us. I'm a hopeful skeptic... I believe things that are lost or hidden can be found, including needles in haystacks and rings that epic stories are told about.

So what do you say Samwise Gamgee? 
Are you out there?

Best of luck to everyone who is searching for their someone.

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Hello.  I read everything you wrote. And I'm still interested.   I'm 51. And am a jack of all trades kinda guy.

Also I have spent my life playing my guitar and writing songs and singing all across the USA.

A year ago I quit my band. Gave up my contractor business and set out to find my real life. And I'm still searching for where I belong. Where I fit in and am needed and where love awaits me.

I have lived off the land. On the land.

And I'll tell you  I have searched for a woman for years to live the homestead life with. Strong women like you are hard to find.

And you're right. Music is great for our souls and a great healer.
I have to play and write and sing.

Not really good at writing all this down. It's like talking to a recorded message.
I would love to atleast text back and forth.

I have a son who is 33. He's on his own. I'm divorced. And I have an income.
I am willing to relocate  for realness.
Hope to hear from you. And we can exchange questions
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Hi:

As the Boss sang in "Spare Parts," "Janey had a baby and it wasn't any sin."

I am a Gen Xr too.  I live in Crystal, MN a first ring suburb of Minneapolis.  I am technically homeless (I am my mother's caretaker, but she owns the house 100%).  My education was a BA in Mathematics at the University of MN twin cities.  I have always been a lifetime investor and have saved, saved and saved.  I worked mainly in the home mortgage business for 14 years.  During that time of employment and after that I practiced permaculture without the term:  maple sapping, wild berry and nut harvesting  (canning, dehydrating, storing), gardening (every imaginable seed I have saved), wild bee habitat, prairie flower garden (periodic prescribed burning, constructing bee homes).  I have planted wild flowers all over my mother's lawn.  We have had edibles in our yard:  Haralson Apple tree, rhubarb, strawberry, red raspberry, black raspberry, blackberry, red currant, gooseberry.  All of these plants are suffering (with the added two years of drought) with the exception of gooseberry (shade tolerant), because of the ever growing shade tree monoculture:  Sugar Maple tree in the back garden with all its babies and two other sugar maples.  Composting is even difficult and pathetic.

The twin cities is great for the urban food garden.  Raw supplies for permaculture abound.  I am like a cave man in attitude and diet.  I can suffer and am not ashamed or afraid to do so.

Mark Scofield
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Janey:

You say you like old movies, so do I!  The Hennepin County Library system and its companion Inter Library System (ILL) is a great source of old movies in the DVD format.  The Criterion Collection is my go- to old time movie service that recognizes true art films and digitizes old movie that were feared lost.  Two of my favorite actresses from the past are Greta Garbo & Anna Magnani.  My favorite strong actresses for today are Isabelle Huppert, Liv Ullman, and Golshifteh Farahani.  My favorite strong actors are Takashi Shimura, Alec Guinness, and Ken Ogata,  My favorite directors are Shohei Imamura, Akira Kurosawa  Jim Jarmusch, Sergei Eisenstein, Andrei Tarkovsky, Frank Wolf, Kevin Costner, Michael Moore, David Lean, Jean Troell, Hayao Miyazaki and Isao Takahata (both from Studio Ghibli), John Waters, and Carl Theodor Dreyer.  I love films that showcase the "Human Experience" that we all share.  To quote REM, "I have lived a full life" and feel uplifted and inspired when I see these films.

My favorite radio station (and has a free website service too) is AM950 in St. Louis Park, MN.  They feature brilliant minds such as Thom Hartman, David Packman and Amy Goodman (Democracy Now!).  They also feature a wildly funny and profane all gay lineup show "The Stephanie Miller Show ("Girls Rule the World" theme song)."  Randy Rhodes (from Florida) in the evening is one of my favorites too, but it is on too late for me, damn!  "Native Roots Radio" is an excellent source for local "Indian Country" issues and information.

Some of my favorite YouTube sites are as follows: for permaculture Canadian Permaculture Legacy, for backcountry adventure Justin Barbour, for off grid living SSLFamilyDad, for political analysis Beau of the Fifth Column, for hunting and fishing New Zealand's Clay Tall Stories, for biblical humor DarkMatter2525.

My favorite books for permaculture are Jerry Baker's "Garden Solutions," Akiva Silver's "Trees of Power." Donald Culross Peattie's "Trees of Eastern and Central North America," Elias and Dykeman's "Edible Wild Plants," and the Peterson Guide Books series.

I have been camping (groups and solo), fishing, and food gathering in the BWCAW since 1986 and up to 2020.

I volunteered with the Superior National Forest (wildlife volunteer) in 1992 and with the MN DNR (Frog and Toad Survey) from 2006-2018.  I am a big time birder, I am especially skilled in identifying birds by their songs and calls.   I am big into Phenology and its relationship to climate change and global warming.  However, we are also overdue for the next ice age, I believe.  Clean water is the key to life.  Sustainability is the key to survival.

In my day "money is time" was the mantra.  Now I hear "money is data" and I think what a scary thing that is to me.  Education is the key, so never stop learning!  I am a super high energy person and have many ideas on how to improve agriculture.

As ABBA sang, "Take a chance on me."

Mark Scofield
Permies.com, Newbie
 
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