Here's the deal.
You can have your monocrop perfect lawn. In the end, the amount of time you spend will be about the same as the chem road, but I'm at least gonna save you a lot of money. And it will be safe for you and your family.
I think the monocrop lawn is fugly, but I respect that you are goofy and want it that way anyway. Maybe some day you'll come around.
First, 95% of all weeds are gonna be eliminated by mowing high. Now this works mostly on weed seeds. A tall, thick turf blocks light from getting to the new baby weed seedling. It also works a bit on existing weeds - but not as well.
Watering just the right way helps to eliminate about 3% more. Then pH, good fertilizing and the like - we'll get you 99% of the way there. And then you manually pull the last 1%.
So, where are we now? Are you mowing high? Doing the rest? What is the current picture?