Hi Bill, thanks for the questions. I'm going to throw back some general comments and thoughts, so if I've missed anything please let me know.
it sounds as if the grey water situation in the US is quite different to here in Ireland. Here we're not meant to go to a single point discharge of grey water due to the risk of groundwater pollution. Everything is meant to go to a single septic tank or mechanical treatment system before percolation. That said, with that combination of grey and black together, we're also meant to desludge our tanks on an annual basis. I've seen black-fed tanks last 20 years without the need for desludging, but I do believe that if grey and black go in together then the sludge levels rise a lot quicker.
Your black water system sounds as if it's working ok at present. Check it annually (the method is in my book and also on page 97 in the EPA Code of Practice available to download for free from www.wetlandsystems.ie/watertips.html) to keep track of the sludge depth. If you don't, then you risk the sludge being drawn into the outlet pipe and rapidly clogging your percolation area.
In terms of grey water additions to the soil - the broader the area of application, the greater the filtration provided by the soil. The Oasis Design systems seem to work well over there.
If your system has been working for a long time and there is no groundwater pollution issue, then it's tempting to leave well along if you can. Maybe plant some comfrey around the nice lush areas if you want to recapture nutrients for use around edibles; or use fruit or nut trees to make good use of the irrigation water. Note that willows and other quick growing trees might clog your pipes with roots completely, so as tempting as willow biomass firewood sounds, it may be best to give that a miss. That said, if you plant willows well down-gradient of the garden then you'll mop up any residual nutrients that want to migrate away into the wider catchment.
Just a few thoughts. Let me know how you get on.