This black man grew up with a mother with natural hair who wore noticeable makeup on special occasions.
When my sisters wanted to straighten their hair and wear make up, my father objected strenuously.
He put a huge load of cultural guilt on them,that persisted for a long time,maybe to this day.
My mother would occasionally straiten her hair, as a gift to her mother,who thought an Afro on a woman was anathema.
Later, when her own daughters started dredding her hair,she reacted in the same way her mother had reacted to her Afro...
She got better,but the irony of the situation was thick and heavy😏
My own daughter is only nine,but she is 5' tall and black.
I fear the way society treats girls, brown girls, girls in makeup as older than they are.
Also, people have been commenting on her beauty since she was a baby,men and women handing us money to go spend on her!
Yeah, I'm terrified. But she is innocent.
So we let her play with make-up.
But we have made it clear that other people wear makeup to look like her. To have clear skin, rosy cheeks, long lashes etc.
She's cool with that🤗
Meanwhile I struggle to quench my bias against hair weaves and false eyelashes.
My own wife has called me out,noting I always complement her eyes more when she has on a little eyeliner.😶
Getting some idea of who your dealing with by how they look is necessary. We recognize bees,with their dangers and potential by how they look.
Of course, there are many species that imitate the bee, to prey on them or to borrow their fearsome reputations.
I wore a button down shurt and tie for work till I was 30.
It wasn't who I was, but it was adaptive.
I have a collection of extremely impractical hats from fez to fedora. I don't wear them anymore, but once I was notorious for my crazy headwear.
I hate cigarette smoke, but I used to dig women who smoked,had tattoos, dyed hair and a get back stare.
Hell, I married a woman like this,and got her to stop smoking! I want to keep her forever, so like some women attracted to a guy on a motorcycle, I got her to curb her risky behavior,for the sake of us.
What you wear or do in a given moment is a data point, not a portrait. Make up is part of that.
As an aside, if you are buying makeup for me, make mine MAC. I don't think it's all that natural, but its very high quality otherwise.