I am divorcing also...and the wise person who said it is usually more than just a job..I feel..is absolutely correct! My husband says on a constant basis..."i would choose you and our home over work" has just become another way of saying..." i really wont so dont push it"...I have been strung along for 8 years now...he really doesnt want to homestead...he really wants to always make more as that is where he spends his time...our life was supposed to be about self reliance...the land...us...but year by year..it has always been about something else..never ending something elses...I finally woke up to the fact that it was always my dream and he just went along with it so he wasnt alone..I am now 46 and starting over...I am very excited actually...I want love and a best friend..someone that holds dear..all of the simple things in life...dont jump head first into an agreement you are frustrated with now...it will only get worse...as far as a job? If you really want to homestead...farm...no job will ever pay for all you will need unless you are Bill Gates...to begin with...besides..half the fun is thinking outside the box and finding the one who will treasure hunt with you since you cant afford all the big new toys!