Terry Wilson

You might try finding plans for a house with a basement.  Make it a walk out basement.  There are house plans try southern living, the library, ask around for local builders and talk with them.  They often have house plans they use and reuse.  I live in NC and people around do not do basements.  I love basements!!  Trying to figure out what I will do.  Good luck!!

as an old bee keeper, many fellow beekeepers do as shown in video -  one has an open cash box - yes he goes out at least once a day, he says if his neighbors take some they must need it! very nice and decent fellow.

So glorious!!!  It is the top of the world.  

Baby, I wish you luck if I was 20 years young I would be heading out.  Will keep my eyes open for you!  Best wishes on the journey!

At times my friends do not understand why I like my time by myself.  I am a therapist and constantly with people listening, helping them at work. I want, no crave quiet time without people!!!  Growing up I liked being by myself. People know me and seem to like me, yet at times I have to retreat to my office for some quiet time.  

I have learned to be excellent at small talk.  I find it difficult to disclose things about myself.  When talking with you about you I can do it!  To tell you about me - ugh!!  I want to share, care, love deeply another one.  Getting from hello to a relationship is like walking over hot coals.  

Honey, (I say that often being a beekeeper) I love your letter.  Ohio is lovely in the summer, winter is cold!  If you were 15 years older I would give you twirl around the dance floor.  My story is similar to yours.  I have learned it is better to be alone than to settle for a lot less than what fits for you. I wish you the best.  I do wish there was a board on permaculture to post that someone was looking.  You are the only one who can make you happy - do let the buggers get you down.

Thank you Gilly - a transaction is when one person says "good morning" or "I love you" or "get away from me" a transaction is an interaction between people. People meet other people in which one of them remembers the other person for years.  I often speak about beekeeping. People have come up to me a year or so later and talk about a presentation I gave.  Do I remember them no, yes we had a tranaction - I was giving info and the were accepting it.  
If we never met - no interaction or transaction.  

Do you know the opposite of love?  It is not hate - hate is an action, a strong emotion. The opposite of love is indifference - not caring or no emotional reaction.

Gilly you are correct is saying both parties have to want to make it happen.  It is like when one partner cheats and wants to stay in the marriage or relationship - both have to want to make it happen.

Guy: Thank you for meeting me; what a lovely outfit you are wearing!
Gal: Thank you so much, this was my dead mothers.  We could not decide if she wanted to be buried in  this blue outfit or the white one.
Guy: It must have been nice to have a mother. Mine ran off with a xylophone player when I was two months old.
Gal: I'm sorry to hear that. Really, though, I sometimes wondered if she was alive or dead-- until last year, of course. You said yours ran off with a xylophone player-- have you ever heard from her?
Guy: only a note here and here = no bars or runs

OR
Guy: Thank you for meeting me; what a lovely outfit you are wearing!
Gal: Thank you so much, this was my dead mothers.  We could not decide if she wanted to be buried in  this blue outfit or the white one.
Guy: which one did you decide on?
Gal: We take turns with both outfits!! When i wear blue - she wears white - then we trade!!

If we copy and paste the conversation each time it will be easier to get the laughs, so here goes!!    your turn.......

Guy: Thank you for meeting me; what a lovely outfit you are wearing!
Gal: Thank you so much, this was my dead mothers.  We could not decide if she wanted to be buried in  this blue outfit or the white one.

Some wise words there my friend.
Do you know why friendships are maintained?  Because each one "gets" something.  The something can be wise words, a hot meal, a pat on the back etc.
Relationships are transactions because if there is not a transaction there is no relationship, like buyer and seller, parent and child.  Parent, child, sibs are a matter of kinship, you know them because of birth. Friendships, marriages, coworkers are by choosing to be "in" the relationship.  Marriage is better if both partners share the same values, ethics, morals there are fewer disagreements. These relationships are built on time, exchanges between the parties, feelings or emotions which elicit memories of good, bad or indifferent times spent together.
People do change, most of the time not much, unless there is a "shattering" event.  This could be death or sickness, or as simple as one partner seeing the other partner clearly (taking off their own rose colored glasses) for the first time.  It is how the two decide to either establish a different relationship or break or shatter the existing one.  
People are not easy.  How do we learn to be sociable people? from the ones around us and sometimes genes deal us a rotten hand to play out in life.  
As you say building the soil is improving yourself - maybe self care and caring for what you have.  As i have counseled - when someone has gone through a bad break up - go take care of your life - your self - your dream - you will stumble over the right person and if by chance you do not - be content with what you have made for and of yourself.  You are the only person who can make you happy!    
TS do you mind my asking what your relationship status is?