Jewel Belcher

I once stopped mid-sentence, while talking to a man's mother, when he stood up from his chair. The unfolding of his length and the muscle workings and strength of him were very attractive. Ever check out a person elbows? If they are not ashy, too wrinkly, don't have a giant pocket off fat there, then they can be attractive also. I probably have less 'weird' attractions than I once did, but thanks for the quirky question, it was fun to ponder.

Jewel

Oh Heather,

This post here brought up some feelings. I used to wonder the same thing. Do my family/friends not think I'm a good candidate for their single male family/friends? Am I not dateable? With your ex saying it happens for him, maybe it is sexism. I am over 50 and have stopped considering "my circle" as a source of finding a perspective match. I'd love to find a match here on permies, but don't see too much success among those posting here.

Just in case some nice man is reading this. SBF, 56 y/o, wants to live in roughly in NC area for homestead(ish) life.

Blessings For Suitable Matchups For Us All,

Jewel

Hi Heather,

I am a bit in the same boat as you. Single, mid 50's, I'm living with MS (so tossing hay can't be done on a regular basis), but I have no children. I've only ever gardened on .25 acre (and just a small portion of that), 8 acres sounds like enough and too much at the same time. My 'end game' vision is a 'family compound' with plenty of 28–38-year old's to support and be supported by. I keep looking in southeastern US, namely NC, GA, & TN. I would love to have a husband in the picture during this journey but realize it may not be in the cards. My preference for livestock would be chickens and goats and LSD, though I've had pet rabbits in the past. I also struggle with what value I'd bring to the kind of community I'd like to be a part of, I can jam/jelly and learning to pressure can, I seed/plant/weed/harvest, learning to make vinegars, pickles and fermenting is on the list. I'm good with finances, a recycle and reuse type of Gal, seed collector, and stick propagator ...LOL, if I could afford what it took to be off grid, I'd probably give it a go. Thanks for starting this thread, I hope all of us reach our goals.

Congratulations on putting yourself out there. I find that to be a bit difficult, so I wanted to wish you the best of outcomes.

Please tell more, what are you looking for in a woman. Do you already have the land in NC? When will you make the move? I need to know what a homesteading man wants since that is the type of man I seek.