Karen Isaacson

I took a cheesemaking class at the local food co-op and didn't like anything we made, but I'm a cheddar head and all we made was soft schmears.

That said, I rely on the New England Cheesemaking Supply Co because they've got an informative website and have been around for a long time.

Their FAQ page on milk and cream should give you some answers:  https://cheesemaking.com/blogs/learn/faq-milk-and-cream  TL;DR:  "You can make cheese with raw milk. However, you need to be 110% sure of the milk quality. The milk needs to come from tested animals and been kept scrupulously clean. "

If raw milk isn't legal for humans in your state, you have no idea whether it's fit for use.  I'd vote no on using the animal quality stuff.  

I am an abuse survivor, so my answers come through that lens.

First, prioritize your safety.  Your boyfriend fits the criteria for abusive, and if he has threatened you with a knife, you need to deal with that before anything.  If reporting him would lose you housing, contact social service agencies first.  Be discreet in all that you do from this point forward.

Second, stop worrying about what your landlady will do and ask.  Hopefully, you made the backyard a place where the people in the building could come to do a barbeque or garden themsleves, and that is a selling point for her and an opportunity to teach people what  you've learned if they're interested in pulling a weed.  Make a list of what  you've done to have on hand when you talk with her.  If the apartment you'd like to rent is more than one bedroom, consider renting one room to a student or someone else who needs a quiet place to live.

Third, you don't know of any solutions...yet.  Think outside the box, consider options you haven't before.  

In the US we have something called 'Home Owners' Associations' which function as a form of governance over the homeowners in the development.  They set the rules, including what colors you can paint your house.  Outside clothes lines and HAM radio towers are typically not on their list of 'approved' items.

I would; it's a health and safety thing.  If they have inspectors, I'd ask about getting the construction inspected, as well, because if you have insurance, your carrier will want to know you built to code.

Consider the purpose:  to keep the graft from drying out.  Bees wax with some olive oil to soften it are about as natural as you can get and still do the job.

I vac pack my matches (on the box separate from strike anywhere), but my backup is flint and steel.

I'd get a soil test that does heavy metals, if there is such a thing, or see if your local Ag agent does tests.