Hi Aurora, I'm a woman as well, and I admittedly opened your post just to compare myself to someone close in age, haha. What you wrote resonates so much, I could have written it myself (except the mastectomy, but I am also a detransitioner). If you'd ever like to chat with someone who has gone through a similar journey, or just commiserate about how difficult dating can be these days, feel free to send me a message
Wishing you all the best, and HUGE props to you for your willingness to confront the difficult parts of life.