29 Single Mother seeking a Phone Buddy

I've recently lost everything at the breakdown of a narcissistic relationship, and am pregnant with my third and going to get my tubes tied after.

I owned a tattoo studio, making really great tattoos (@chaisunlee.tattoos) was living somewhere where I volunteered frequently at an urban farm and garden, and had many little projects to develop my homesteading skills from where I was at. I recently moved to get away from the chaos and regain my sense of self, so I can be a good mother to my children.

Honestly, I feel beaten, but I know there's a silver lining. I'm rebuilding myself, with the difficulties of an upcoming newborn baby.... I am gradually making plans to afford a bus, so that my children and I can live with low overhead and travel and temporarily work on farms and homesteads while I make art or do part-time work for money and part-time work volunteering.

It's a bit scary. I'm sure I will have to have good travel companions for our security. Mostly, I've been hesitant to set my mind to something again, as things have been so hard to lose. I'm dead set on being single until I find a man or a woman who truly can be a teammate and that I love passionately.

In the mean time, I'm lonely. I want a friend. If it develops into something healthy and more, I'd be happy for that. Unlike my last several years, I'm no longer committed to my studio or the place I was living, so even though my life is in shambles, I have the unique freedom of being able to join someone's life easier, if it were truly right.

I know a smart and beautiful woman with two kids who did as such, and met a good man on Permies who has his own homestead and joined him there after a long while of talking and visiting. She was scared too, as she had also experienced intense abuse. But she showed me it was possible to find something good, and I am grateful for that example.

If anyone would like to talk, and be a phone friend, I'd like to explore that. I am attracted to men and women and also respectfully and able to just be friends with men and women.

Much love and admiration for those on this site, pursuing conscientious lifestyles,

Chai

Hello! I can be a phone buddy! I will pm you.

PM sent!

Oh my gosh. I am responding to your post, just to say, I think your art is the best ever!  Whatever or whoever you find on Permies will be good, and your friend was very smart to send you here. Good luck to you in your bus life. There is so much information on that online. And congrats on the baby! You'll find lots of friends and support here. You could always post you work to the art forum.  People here would love to see art like what I just found on your Instagram page. This is just too adorable:

I am a single mama in a similar position, eg had to leave a narc relationship, now rebuilding, and contemplating nomadic life. Would love to talk more - I'll message you

HI hope all is going well with you lately but should you still want a new friend..just call
Anytime Tim 717-880-4267
I sent you a purple moose also

Hey, I just wanted to reach out and see if you are still looking for a phone buddy. I'm a 28-year-old single mom still rebuilding after getting out of a narc relationship. Feel free to DM me!

best of luck and be safe

Hello

My name is sam and 34. Still looking for a phone buddy?

Hi Chai and folks,

I hope I can be a sounding board for folks thinking through changes like you, Chai, are going through. You, reader, are welcome to PM me through the website mail thingy, if interested in thinking aloud, getting to know each other, or dreaming together about how we can make our world better, if even only a little corner of it.

I'm 63, and am preparing to build, next spring, a little home in Colrain MA. I volunteer with the Green-Rainbow Party; the Massachusetts state affiliate of the Green Party of the US, and with the Valley Community Land Trust (vclt.org) and the Colrain Town Energy Committee, too. I hope to start an orchard featuring chestnuts ( I love them) with other  tree-crops and perennial crops, on the 2 acre VCLT-owned leasehold here, and then maybe on VCLT common land - there's 25 rocky acres attached to the three leaseholds here on my road, and other possibilities.

There's some random, hopefully encouraging stuff here:
https://hopefulvision.blogspot.com/

Brian
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If you're interested in talking i can be a decent listener you may contact me at (443) 345-8154‬ I can relate to the situation as far as the narcissist goes obviously i cant get pregnant lol.

Ill be your phone buddy

I'd be willing to be a phone buddy! I have 2 children my son is starting college at WSU and my daughter just turned 7 months so in addition to phone buddy if your bus rolled Seattle way I'd gladly share outgrown baby stuff. Also would be interested in hearing about what you did to get away from your narcissist relationship.

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