26 f in the catskills, looking for my homestead husband <3

Hi all!

After a few years travelling and living / working on different farms and homesteads around the country, I've returned to the land I grew up on and am trying to transform it into a regenerative, permacultural-based homestead for my future family. Weeding and planting the traditional garden, slowly adding more perennial fruit trees / bushes / vines, and helping out what is here (mostly red and black raspberries, and a few apple trees from an old orchard are still alive). I'm hoping to have a place for chickens within this June, and am focusing on razing and rebuilding the old barn my parents let rot.

I love it here, and have a clear vision of a future here - where a passive solar greenhouse would go, what to plant up on the ridge behind the existing house, where the old spring can be retapped, where, further up on the mountain, our house could go, free of the sadness that's anchored to the house I grew up in.
But.. I also hate it here. Bad memories, poor sunlight hours, increasingly out-of-touch weekend neighbors. And frankly, I worry I have *too* clear a vision - I want a man who's vision I can follow and support, I am not a leader. So, I am open to relocating, too. But probably not far from the greater Appalachian area. I love the rich forest soils, the wet springs, the biodiversity, the cool summers, and the ~overall vibe~

A bit about me

I am - passionate, determined, positive, caring, nurturing, hard working. I feel best when I'm productive and grounded - though I am not always the best at pushing myself or grounding myself, that's something I need to be able to lean on my man for.
I love to hike, camp, and swim.
I currently work part time on a nearby market farm, and part time at a preschool. I love kids, I'm great with them, I want a dozen babies (but in reality, with all the constraints of what I can ask the earth to sustainably provide for, I want like... 3 or 4? or 5?). I love to nourish and nurture, I take great pride in being a good cook and housekeeper - and that's what I want to be, a good stay-at-home(stead) mama, ideally part of a homeschool co-op, alternative school, running a 4-h type program, or something of the like - I was lonely growing up, and don't want my kids to be.
I am... spiritual? I grew up in a more or less atheist household, but as I've grown up have found myself to believe there is a creator. I have been going to church recently, though am not sure I would call myself strictly Christian - I am trying to know God, but I'm not sure exactly what that means, yet.
I'm 5'2, pretty fit (hard to say, I'm also VERY insecure).
Important to mention - *I transitioned to male for a few years, before finding myself again and returning to my natural womanhood. My body has recovered well and I'm healthy and whole - with the very notable exception of the fact that I've had a mastectomy*

I am NOT - chill, cool, easy-going, or laid back
I'm not interested in any kind of open or non-monogamous relationship.
I'm not interested in any kind of high-tech state-of-the-art hydroponic gardening, nor any kind of high-input, high-till conventional agriculture


Looking for a man who knows who he is and what he wants. Who I can rely on as a sturdy, solid figure in my life. A man who embraces his manhood and strength - and the responsibility that comes with it. A man who wants to protect and provide for a family. Who will push himself, and push me, to be our best selves. Who wants to enjoy long days working hard together and long evenings relaxing in the shade listening to the frogs. A man who will lead me, who will listen to me but, at the end of the day, make the tough decision. A man I can worship, love, satisfy, obey, who's shoulder I can cry on and who's arms I can hide in and who's hand I can hold while we laugh til we snort.

If that's you, shoot me a message! If it's not you, wishing you a lovely and lucky day!

Sent you a Moosage. Anyway, here is another version of it, btw, love the hair down picture:



Silverfox.

email me at tlee27407@gmail.com are text me at +13046270877 I would rather talk like that if that’s okay with you beautiful by the way

Just wanted to say I think it’s nice that there are other people in their 20s interested in permaculture and living off the land (I’m in my 20s as well). Hope you find everything that you’re looking for, and I wish you the best!

Hi Aurora, I'm a woman as well, and I admittedly opened your post just to compare myself to someone close in age, haha. What you wrote resonates so much, I could have written it myself (except the mastectomy, but I am also a detransitioner). If you'd ever like to chat with someone who has gone through a similar journey, or just commiserate about how difficult dating can be these days, feel free to send me a message Wishing you all the best, and HUGE props to you for your willingness to confront the difficult parts of life.

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