Tana Gooden wrote:
It is strange in these times I must say, and I cannot understand why it is so difficult to find "the other person".
We are coming from times where there were mail order brides and people made it. People travelling for jobs, vacations, fairs etc and somehow found their person. People grouping on the big frontier and traveling for land and found a mate. So what is so different in our times?
There has to something that breaks this brass ceiling that now prevents people from connecting on that true level. When the One who ordained " that when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing, and obtains favor" is in charge..hearts will always connect and life will flow
Behavioral Scientists contend that humans are less likely to be satisfied with a decision if there are too many choices. You have earned many responses to your heartfelt and raw post John. And as Tana asked, How will you know her? If you were trekking in a wagon train for 6 months, you would be able to observe the others, talk around the camp fire, discover likes and dislikes organically. You would know her and she know you.
After I failed at my first marriage, in the early 90's. I was living in the Houston metro area. Al Gore's Interweb was not available to the general public yet. I took the approach of attending events and festivals that focused on my personal interests. Gatherings of like minds should narrow the search some right? Your post here is targeting those of like mind. Yet still a fairly broad spectrum. May I suggest that you narrow the field more by hiking with a Sierra Club group, WOOFing for a few weeks, or offer your mentorship in an area of your expertise.
JM
