jd hutton

Juan Roble wrote:

...when someone tells you they’re giving you everything, starts building a life project with you, and then later acts as if they never really felt anything… it hits hard.

Don’t waste your time going in circles about what went wrong. It is clear that this was not the person who was meant to be there, and that they left to make space for the right one.

The other day I saw a phrase in Spanish: “Remember, they don’t leave you for someone better, they leave you for something easier.” That says enough. Let’s give that the value it deserves: zero.

Keep your mind open. Think positively. Let yourself feel excited again. Cry and scream when you need to. But then get back up and grow, the way branches grow stronger after pruning.

Hermano, I am Framing This. Spot On.

The way I would put that 'dicho' (and the 'sense' of it's message) in Spanish would be like this:

'No te dejan por alguien Mejor -
Te dejan por un camino mas facil.
Pero asi - lo pierdan Todo.  
Aguante y Mira adelante.'

..and in Plain English (for the non Bi-Lingual herein...

'They don't leave you for someone better—
They leave you for an easier path.
But in doing so, they lose everything.
Hang in there, and look forward.'

Mas o menos? (more or less Great perspective. Hopefully 'Dani', here, can find some healing from this.

Anne Miller wrote:Go up to the top of this thread and you will see the forums this topic is in.

Beautiful, Thanks Anne! Seller and I are comm'ing in 'PMlandia' so.. All Good, Thanks.

jd

Michelle Miller wrote:Hello, I'm looking for someone who wants to enjoy life here ...in the Andes mountains of Ecuador. I left the US in 2005 and never looked back. ... looking for a big animal lover who will enjoy my equines and dogs.

Hola Michelle

Fascinating - I also left the US in 2005 - Moved to El Salvador - Loved it there.. (Sure, there were 'pockets of crime' - like Everywhere - but it was easy to not be 'targeted' - just don't walk around 'looking like low hanging fruit / a target', and you're good. Mostly, just Industrious, Ingenious Family-oriented People, focused on Living, and 'blooming where they were planted'. And I found very much the same down in Ecuador. (been there Twice - Love it there, also.. No doubt you will recognize these wonderful spots...



..and 'El Mirador de Turi' overlooking Cuenca, with the Andes in the background, there..

Amazing Vistas, down there.. Few more snaps, for the benefit of Others (but I'll just 'link', so-as to Not choke up Your thread with My Pix.. Valle / Cañon / Lago etc..

I think the thing that strikes Any 'visitor' the Most, is just how Green and Lush everything is - Everywhere, even in just the 'off-areas', outside the Cities, ie: Cumbayá (I think..) Anyway - Point made, yes?

But I can only Imagine just how Amazing your 'Finca' must be. Posting this here - Not as an 'Application', per-se.. But.. As I crest my years closing in on 60, I find myself - once again - at a 'crossroads', so.. I Am saying 'Hmmmm...' And - Absolutely Love both Dogs (here's My Two Clowns..) and Horses..

We had an Arabian when I was a teen - but I hadn't the bux to buy a 'Proper camera' back then, so.. I Drew 'im in Pencil - This was Rajii - Absolutely Love having 'silent conversations' with them via their Eyes - it is an Unmatched experience.

Anyhoo, this is all 'For what it's worth. I am slowly - but Steadily - still recuperating from a rather Painful 'Relationship Flat-Tire' - with a woman who - Claimed - she was All For building a Homestead together, but.. When it was Time to 'strike the match' / Make it all Happen, well.. She bailed.. Turns out, she wasn't 'over the Ex' or something, but.. Ehh, is what it is..

Like I posted elsewhere - when "Life" knocks you down / burns you Up - Just like in Nature / Permaculture - ya just gotta Get Back Up, and Keep Growing Forward.



If any of this 'resonates with ya'- PM is fine, then we could email / chat from there. Y Si - Hablo Español Muy Muy Bien. Cheers, Michelle...

jd

dani marie wrote:..If you have a little chunk of land or a piece of property..

Hello dani - Nice to 'eMeet you'  Sorry you had to go thru this - Sounds 'all too familiar', unfortunately... Had something 'similar-ish' happen earlier this year...

After 'investing' Very Heavily into a 2 year + long Total-Commitment / Courtship - She said "Yes!!" to the 'Atomic Bomb' and all.. / Solid 'Hunting Season Tools' Gifted, etc, etc - which was to culminate in getting a Nice Old House on some Very-Choice Land up in Northern Cal, and - Finally- starting the Homestead / Permie-Life, well.. Two days from 'closing', she informs me 'I just can't Do this'.. Turns out, she - apparently - wasn't 'over the Ex' yet.

Anyhoo, point being: Don't give up Hope. I posted this earlier, and think it fits here:

 and, Another good one:

Yep, good advice.

If it helps, I Still have a small chunk of Land up in NorCal (Not the place 'We' were considering - that 'We' is over and done / the place Sold to someone else.. so, if you're interested in Discussing, shoot me a 'PM' and we can chat more about a 'place to park your little home' (sounds you have like an RV / Trailer or.. 'TinyHouse on wheels', maybe? You can explain if you wish.

In any case - Best to you - Hang in there.  
jd

and PS - Yes, 'AI' is the devil.

Juan Roble wrote:For those who carry wounds, we could learn from.... allowing spring to return.

Bien Dicho, Hermano. (Well Said, Brother! Adelante...

Anne Miller wrote:I added that forum for you.

Gotta Link to that? (so we can keep track of - at least This 'listing', and any others that may pop-up)  The "Search", here, is, well.. Not Quite as good as 'Use The Force, Luke'..

Thanks.

Amaya Engleking wrote:..We’re looking to sell our A-frame, what will be one of the most affordable homes in all of La Plata county.

Hello Amaya -

Please send me a 'PM' about your place - Bedrooms / Sq Footage, and Acreage, and we can trade emails / discuss from there.

Son / DIL and Fam are looking at a move to CO, so.. This might end up being 'fortuitous' for Both of us.  Cheers..

jd

paul wheaton wrote:Macadamia nuts and almond Roca.

Indeed, the 'Comfort Foods of the Gods'...



Very-fond Childhood memories (of Both Grandparents..) when munching on said items, as well.  A Hearty +1.  

Ben Zumeta wrote:How can I be someone my community will support through thick and thin?

Get trained / skilled-up on 'First Aid' Medical Skills, ASAP (and Emergency Dental..) Best 'Personal Investment' I ever made.. (well, next to my 3 Incredible Children - but that's another story / thread..

Make - Yourself - 'Invaluable'.. and then even 'malevolent actors' will be reticent to skewer you.