We don't spend zero but do spend very little extra even with four young children and lots of presents under the tree. This year total on presents for my children and husband I spent $22.50. Here is how:
- We plan ahead and look for deals on ingredients we need for special foods.
- We have set up gift expectations for our children so that they know they will get one main gift from us which will be some kind of "experience" usually something we do as a family together. We also always give them a nice new Christmas button down shirt or a dress which we make for them from material sourced for free somehow(salvaged from a larger discarded garment, offcuts or material someone never got around to using and have away--actually quite common). They love these things!
- We also give them a very full stocking stuffed with gifts that I have made in the lead up or found looking on sites where people give things away for free, such as:
- homemade: cookies, candies, flavoured popcorn, etc.
- books
- little toys (people are ALWAYS getting rid of these last two, you just have to be thinking in advance for Christmas!)
- handmade: doll clothes, embroidered kerchiefs, pouches, bookmarks, hair bows, mini notebooks, crayons, crochet little animals, Christmas tree ornaments, lip balm, craft kits, garden seed kits, etc.
- We also do a little advent gift each day in the lead up and it is very tiny, maybe a little sweet or a figurine, something with their initial on it, etc.
With children in my experience it just needs to FEEL special, and be presented well. I mean, how different really is a new little box of LEGO from the Legos that they already have? But if it is packaged nicely, new to them and they can look forward to something that they can build with it that they might not have thought of building before--it's exciting!
So, if I make little cookies gift wrapped just for them to eat whenever they want and sew a mini notebook together and label it "Secret Invention Ideas" and wrap it up, suddenly the paper that was there in the study all along becomes "cool". And those things that we source from what others are discarding just need to be new to them and gift wrapped.
It does take more planning, creativity and work in the lead up but I enjoy it and also like the investment in what we are, hopefully, modelling for our children.