Well, here is what I do for the stress, and often grief and frequent grief and frustration of living with a covert malvolent narcissistic husband who is truly off his rocket. He can be cruel to me and to the animals. He has killed so many of my beloved animal friends over the years.
And no, I am not able to leave him. However he is slowly killing himself as well. I am determined to outlast him, and become single and peaceful and happy!
Mybgo-to for strong emotional distress and despair are applying 3 Jin Shin holds. I am a retiree now, but used the art on human clients back in the day, and am branching out into applying it to my animals these days. It works on all mammals, however the specific points of contact are a little varied in the 4-legged critters.
Jin Shin has brrn calked “the Art of the Ceeatir,” and can be compared to accupuncture, but WITHOUT NERDLES!
Various points on the body access our physical and emotions, and can strengthen healing and emotional balance.
Ready to give place your hands where they can help in moments of frustration or despair or grief (I use these often!) ? Here’s where to put them…
First put your fingers on the back of your neck, half way down from your head and your shoulders. Elbows out, and just rest your fingers there. Pressure is unncessary (one can do this tgrough clothing, a plaster cast,etc. Still works.
This hold is the “Thy Will be Done” (or .”it is what it is, let it be”) hold.
B patient. After a bit you will probably feel a pulsing underneath your fingers. This is energy which overflowed tge banks of its regular channel being pulled back where it belongs by your fingers.
Every 3 minutes or so, briefly remove your fingers, tgen put them back on your neck., until the flow underneath your fingers is relaxed (no pounding) and gentle.
Step one done. Good job!
The next hold is forearms crossed so that your left fingers are touching where your right neck meets your right shoulder and left neck meets left shoulder. Again, hold until the pulsing is gentle and quiet, loosening contact briefly, then reapplying if contact is more than 2 minutes to get to gentle pulsing.
This hokd releases old baggage. Often emotional, even the stuff we are not aware of. But it may also release the body’s over guarding of an old physical injury.
The last hold is calked “Wash Our Hearts with Laughter.” It gives us back our sense of humour - our ability to chuckle at things once again. As one cannot chuckle when depressed or despairing, this lightens us up.
Place your fingers where your body joins your leg. Again, wait for the pulsing may thump under your fingers for a while as your fingers are drawing the errant energy back where it belongs. Periodic breaks with immediate re-contact are, again, the thing to do so that the body does no become de-sensitised to your touch and ignore it.
You do not have to actually set a timer for how many minutes before breaking off and then reapplying or touching again the point. The goal is a relaxed pulsing which pulses under both hands at the same time. Not two different pulses.
You can MEVER hurt your body with Jin Shin holds. You are simply touching your body. There is nothing invasive or foreign that would force it.