Hi Matt, welcome to permies!
It would be really helpful to know roughly at least where you are located. A 40' (using feet so probably US) apple tree in Colorado might be 100 years old. In an optimal location we get nondwarf fruit trees here that reach that height in a generation. If its down- count the rings.
If you are waiting to get some scions from it before you admit defeat, you can get them custom grafted if you dont graft yourself. I think Hidden Springs offers this service.
http://hiddenspringsnursery.com/