posted 4 years ago
I love this post! I am a polyamorous/non-monogamous person as well and believe we should normalize non-monogamous relationships.
I do have a question which may put you on the defensive, but that I believe is reasonable to ask: If you are so busy running your farms that a three or four paragraph post is almost too much to take time to write, how can you reassure someone that either of you will have the time and emotional energy to devote to developing a relationship with an additional partner? It sounds like someone would need to immediately drop their entire life, quit other work and projects they have going on, and move to your farm in order to have much opportunity to interact and build a connection.
I don't subscribe to very much about the traditional stereotypes about dating, and believe you can learn more about a person by spending an afternoon gardening with them than you can learn about a person by having lunch and seeing a movie together. However, relationship building does still take time, attention, and energy.
Today is a very exciting time in my life. I am on a wonderful adventure and will never go through this particular experience again.