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Ambitious 30-year-old male searching for a lifelong female counterpart

 
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In search of a female companion to start a homestead with. I desire someone who has aligning ideologies, goals, and hopefully able to equally contribute towards beginning the venture. If what I write below truly reaches out to you, perhaps we may be a genuine match, but there are no guarantees since we will likely be distances away and that may present roadblocks. I'm not entirely sure how everything will unfold, but I am determined to try and see if my ideal friend/companion is out there looking for me too. I am faithful and honest; I will always do my best to contribute to the overall success of the relationship, I want a strong woman who will enhance my drive and make me better all around.

On a physical/characteristics note, I am 30 years old, Caucasian, about 5'7", 155 pounds, stocky build and above average muscularity/endurance. I have no children besides two dogs and two cats =). I view myself as a kind empath, silly with dryer humor, also with a serious side in the sense that I don't take flak from rude folk, and I know when it's time to have a straight face on and get to work. I thoroughly enjoy congenial conversation; I find myself engaging in intellectual conversations with others and carry those talking points onto my free-time writings. I am passionate about politics (I am a moderate, middle grounded), nature, and humanitarian topics. When it comes to religion, I consider myself Agnostic and heavily leaning towards scientific beliefs. Although I am not religious, I am still a very caring soul that instills lawfulness. I consider myself an old-soul, home-bodied (I'm still willing to go out and experience the world and engage in fun activities). I thoroughly enjoy older music from 60s-90s era, mostly classic rock and other genres of rock, my music taste is expansive beyond that. However (I know it's not a popular view for most), but I am not into country music. I don't drink much, and I am 420 friendly (although I hardly smoke the herb much nowadays), I will not be able to tolerate cigarette smokers. I keep in shape by exercising in moderation, I believe in sustaining my body to ensure it maintains into old age, but I don't over-do it by any means, I enjoy all sorts of physical activities, mostly catering to weightlifting, running/sprinting. I am not afraid to do the cooking, cleaning, caretaking of animals and everything in between, I am willing to do everything.

I am a bit of a jack of all trades, I am capable of building, repairing and a DIY enthusiast overall. I have personally remodeled my previous home that I sold. Furthermore, I've also built a quality tiny house on wheels in all facets of construction, from the frame to the finished product. I own the diesel truck to pull the home, it also has use for farming needs. I currently have the tiny home up for sale since I figured it may be an undesirable living quarters due to the lack of space for cats/dogs, also if starting a family is a desire. I will attach a few pictures of the tiny house as proof of work, and you can likely determine for yourself if it reflects quality workmanship. I have many more photos to share that show the greater extent of the home.

I'm very much in touch with nature and animals, I eat mostly vegetarian, while I also enjoy fish/seafood (and eggs, of course). I do at times enjoy other meat sources, but I don't know if I ever could as a result of my own farm animals, perhaps hunting game, but still unsure about that (only if truly needed). I could probably just live off eggs and seafood as meat sources, otherwise. I live a very healthy lifestyle and desire to establish a fairly diverse homestead, all sorts of crops, having chickens for eggs, and adding-in beekeeping for honey (and mead production). I would really love the idea of eventually expanding on that to turn it into a business, whether it be as small as farmers markets or manifesting into a small storefront selling produce, perhaps expanding further with prepared dishes (I am a fairly good cook). With all that said, I still have limited experience actually growing crops and homesteading. I do however, learn and establish a system rather quickly, so I don't believe it will take much to catch on and get things going (in time).

With any successful venture/relationship, plans and agreements must be made in accordance. I am willing to work a normal job to get the homestead going overtime, with the drive to make that a full-time business. I am only semi-flexible in terms of the homesteading location, I am a firm-believer we may have limited time to act, as humanity is living in very unsustainable means with fragile supply-chains and unforgiving weather in many areas. I personally believe if nothing changes soon, we may see a societal collapse. Therefore, I have personally picked out areas that I believe will do better than others in terms of less/safer populations and manageable weather, the areas include the Appalachian Trail northward to the Northeast states, including (upstate) New York, Vermont, New Hampshire, and Maine. Depending on if certain assets are sold or not, will determine how much of an upfront monetary contribution I can make.

I know what I've written might be a bit excessive to some, but it paints a descriptive picture of what I'm looking for, who I am/stand for, and where I want to ideally be. There is certainly more to find out about me to figure if I'd be an ideal match, so if you're interested, feel free to reach out and we can conversate privately to get an accurate feel for each other. Thanks for reading! I've attached a picture since obviously a mutual physical attraction is also important, I have more pictures to share in private. By the way, I am currently based in Southwest Florida (if it even matters).
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hi. What makes you think these locations will do best? Is it because they are out of the way?

I am 27, female.

I love foraging a lot. I like wild edible weeds 😜

Im looking for a partner too
 
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Hello Daphne, thanks for responding to my ad. Well to answer your question, data shows that winters are getting shorter and less prevalent, where summers are becoming more dangerous with increased activity of extreme heat, drought, and wildfires. When these types of disasters occur (amongst many other natural catastrophes), there is no ability to grow food and creates a lesser chance of survival for all living animals, not just humans. Up in the NE states, they are the safest in terms of natural disasters/climate change consequences, their summers stand a better chance of being less extreme. The populations there are less (compared to most states), and those NE states have consistently ranked high in safety (meaning the people that live there are generally less hostile, at least that’s the idea). When it comes to survival, one of the greatest threats to humans are unfortunately.. other humans (that are hostile/desperate). So I’ve taken both factors in conjunction to determine that.
 
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Joshua Laupert wrote:Hello Daphne, thanks for responding to my ad. Well to answer your question, data shows that winters are getting shorter and less prevalent, where summers are becoming more dangerous with increased activity of extreme heat, drought, and wildfires. When these types of disasters occur (amongst many other natural catastrophes), there is no ability to grow food and creates a lesser chance of survival for all living animals, not just humans. Up in the NE states, they are the safest in terms of natural disasters/climate change consequences, their summers stand a better chance of being less extreme. The populations there are less (compared to most states), and those NE states have consistently ranked high in safety (meaning the people that live there are generally less hostile, at least that’s the idea). When it comes to survival, one of the greatest threats to humans are unfortunately.. other humans (that are hostile/desperate). So I’ve taken both factors in conjunction to determine that.



I sent you a message but i cant send you a second one with my email included i am not sure if thats because of Permies.com policy or what. They also tend to frown upon sending emails in posts but uhhh mine is dafeeduck28@gmail.com. You probably dont use Discord, but that is sufficient if you wanted to talk

Sounds like a great SHTF plan imo, quite thought out ✌️✌️😁

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Hey Joshua, I am 31F currently living in Utah, but looking to make a move to somewhere around your area of interest within the next few years, as soon as I have a concrete plan for doing so. It seems like we really have a lot in common.

I have been more focused on locations a little further west than where you are looking (IL, OH, IN, very north MO) with consideration for ideal present and future climate/soil conditions for food production.  I do like your line of thinking about being in NE, however.  The people portion is definitely an important factor and one that I had not fully accounted for.  My thoughts were that if I were far enough out in a rural area, the others in that area would have a similar mindset and therefore have a lesser impact on my decision of location. I am, of course, always open to being wrong and sometimes even prefer being wrong about things.  I also firmly believe that we have limited time to act and would like to make sure that I have everything well established long before it needs to be, which may or may not be possible now.

I am very much a doer.  I am currently working on remodeling my house on my own and have done extensive work on the landscaping/garden area of my home this year and making plans for further work next year.  I prefer to do work myself when possible, but know when I am better off working with a professional.  I am working on my PDC and if all goes well should have it in December of this year.  I love to garden and grow food and have been working on maximizing yield in the small space I have for a few years.  I am also capable in various methods of food preservation. I also compost onsite and have been doing some soil rehab.  I have a strong interest in natural building/natural plasters and have travel around to learn about it when I have the opportunity.  I’ve been considering longer-term stints like internships or work exchanges, but haven’t been able to set up the logistics to be able to do so yet (i.e., prioritizing other things like getting while the getting is good financially).

We also seem to be similar in terms of what we eat.  I respect animals’ autonomy and right to live a full and healthy life.  I very rarely eat meat and tend to trend towards vegan food choices as much as is reasonable.  One of the largest hurdles for me in finding someone to homestead with has been the fact that many people want to raise animals for meat on their properties, which is something I don’t think I could ever do, nor would I want to do.  However, I do love animals and would love to have some, but not with the intention of killing them to eat.  I have a dog who is about 4 years old.  I have no children.

I don’t really like drinking all that much but do have an occasional drink when I feel like it.  I am 420 friendly as well, but choose to not buy or keep marijuana in my house since I would rather it not become something habitual.  I am all about engineering my environment to support the choices I want to live by, rather than relying on willpower.  I don’t often participate in traditional exercise (although I have in the past and do like to do yoga a few times a week) and much prefer manual labor/working outside as it’s checks the box of productivity as well 😊. I am 5’8” 250lbs with the weight mostly being due to working very long hours in a sedentary job which doesn’t match my intake to my output.  One of my motivations for wanting to transition to a homestead is because I want to be able to integrate activity into almost everything I do, which my current life circumstance makes difficult, but which increases the quality of my life.  On the weekends, I typically spend as much time as possible working on my house or yard and am looking to start another business soon based in permaculture design.

I am a hard worker and would absolutely be willing to keep an outside job for as long as needed to be able to support the establishment and maintenance of a property until it starts generating income.  I have a lot of experience starting, owning and selling businesses.  

I don’t really watch TV or movies much but do read a lot.  I try to keep it a mix of fun and educational content, depending on my mood.  I currently work in tech/finance but try to have as little technology around me (specifically smartphones/devices, laptops etc.) when I am not at work.  I don’t have social media for anything other than what is required to be able to perform my job.

As far as religious/political beliefs go, focus on the things that I value and believe first and foremost and using those as the basis for the choices I make.  I value openness, kindness, trust, commitment, ingenuity, productivity, environmental stewardship, community, self-awareness, independence/self-reliance, individuality and a solutions-focused mindset.  I love to learn about others and their values and beliefs.  I am always open to changing my opinion or taking new points into consideration that may change parts of how I see things.  

The pictures of your build are beautiful!  Very well done and impressive breadth of knowledge.

Let me know if there’s anything else you’d like to know or if you’re interested in chatting further 😊
 
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Hello Katelyn. Thanks for reaching out!
I believe your thought of taking the future into consideration is very important, and perhaps many locations of what you have in mind may be better suited or not, I do not like to lead others to believe one over the other. I would also consider the Michigan peninsula too, and not to forget that all along the Appalachian trail starting from the Smokey mountains heading NE (through Virginia, West Virgina, Pennsylvania) can all still be viable due to their altitudes (maintaining some of the coolest summer temperatures), again though that's not to say that have drawbacks too depending on the area. Many parts along the trail do have potential for other disasters such as flooding, landslides, and earthquakes (but earthquakes there are usually nothing extreme, but who knows what the future beholds).
The people portion of my thinking is also important, although not to take away from the fact that having a community/group of like-minded individuals banding together, can be the difference between surviving or not, the lone-wolf approach doesn't usually work from what I understand. I tend to think the worst in terms of unprepared individuals from cities or heavily populated areas may trickle out to some countryside's in search of a way to survive themselves. Although, I don't believe those people would get very far. Again, you may be right in thinking those areas you've picked, may have better populations to resource from. I also take into consideration that if I'm wrong about a societal collapse (whatever the reason may be), that I'm not too far away from somewhere I can actually work for a paycheck, if needed.
You sound resourceful yourself, likely you're someone who can fit in and carry yourself in a group (or perhaps by yourself). I also like to hear your thoughts about having animals, but not farming them to kill. I don't disagree with other individuals' methods in that area; it just necessarily wouldn't be my approach either. PDC (permaculture design certificate), I imagine? If so, that's awesome to hear, you're definitely into the lifestyle from everything you've mentioned. I've recently discovered an interesting method to increase yields in very small spaces, something I've known about for quite some time, however seeing it in this very formal build has me itching to construct one myself. I will hopefully do one if/when I can get to my homesteading destination.
I am always flattered by kind words on the tiny home, thank you very much! I took pride in making it as perfect as I could and to my personal designing. Feel free to send a private message to me. I enjoy conversation, learning about others, and sharing like-minded conversation. All I can expect for now, is conversation and friendships with the hope of it manifesting to something more. Thanks again!
 
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Hello Josh! I found your post to align with a lot of my goals as well! I’m currently in New England and would love to talk some more. You can reach out to me on snap alibear2123 I’d love to chat
 
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