i have friends with a large farm in southern california
(1 hour north of san-diego, 35 minutes from Oceanside) ,
olive grove, grapefruit & persimmon trees.
they would accept you and your mother...
family-oriented community farm, several houses
single men & single women and families involved,
some have parents living with them
they go in town to markets 4 times a week.
and have their own store --- 15 minutes from Oceanside CA.
musical evenings every night.
gad@saphar.net