Newton Family, welcome to Permies. There is a possibility that we may be along similar paths as I am in the mind to start an intentional community here in Piedmont/Triad area where I live. I am married with a young family of two children (2 and 7). I have been flirting the idea with my wife about intentional community after I finish my engineering degree. These arrangements are a very delicate balance naturally and I have not fully settled on how I plan on balancing the arrangements required to commit multiple families to a shared community.
I can say I understand your frustrations in your search for intentional community. Compatibility is very important and many of these communities locally do not fit with my ideals or aspirations. Specifically, I am a traditional modern Christian so my moral standard assimilates well with non-fundamentalist, monogamous Christians. Because I have children that I want to raise based on my moral perspective, being too "open-minded" to certain habits are not an option for me. Needless to say dancing around a camp fire at night participating in "free-love" orgies praising some revived pagan fertility goddess is not exactly serving my more conservative interest.
Aside from that, here is a passive list of interests I plan to work on.
Earth-sheltered timber frame homes.Community building.Shared land.EntrepreneurshipIntegrative biodynamic research.Philanthropy.Farm to consumer honor system store.Forest agroculture.Bioshelter greenhouse for the less cold tolerant plants (coffee, citrus, chocolate, mango, etc).Designed forest for producing fine honey (sourwood, clover, etc)Rotational grazing pasture system.Aquaponics.Aquaculture research.Aquaculture production ponds (crayfish, malaysian prawn)Medicinal plants.Hybrid on-grid/off-grid community.Natural swimming ponds.
What qualities satisfy your image of an ideal neighbor? What are your goals in an intentional community?