51F Seeking a strong, loving, intellectual man interested in moving to me for off-grid family life

I live in WI, in a beautiful hilly area with good community. I have 40 acres with woods, open, and a creek. We're two miles from a river. I live with my two youngest children who are 11 (boy) and 17 (girl). My daughter is heading off to college after this year but my son will be with me for a while yet. I have them most of the time. I also have two other children who are out of the home (20 and 22). They live an hour away. I have a good relationship with all my children and they are very important to me. I am also a homeschool teacher and a (new) midwife, working only with out of hospital birth.

I am looking to find a man to share the rest of my life with. Age wise, I prefer 45-55, although I would go a little younger for the right man. I would rather not go any older.

I want a powerful loving relationship but also a partnership, where we can do projects together, have long interesting conversations, be there for each other in difficult times, and be each other's safe secure place. I want a man who is willing and interested in growing personally. I do not expect perfection in a person or a relationship, I certainly am not perfect, but I do expect willingness to work through conflict, reflect, and take ownership and apologize. I would love a man who is a maker, has skills with homesteading stuff, and believes in the importance of traditional skills.

I believe love is a powerful force, and I also believe love should be shown not just in words but in actions. A good relationship means each person is in service to the other, seeking to love and be there for the other person in the way that they need.

Right now at our place I have fruit trees planted (5 years old), a lot of chickens and two ducks, and lots of project needs and ideas. We have often raised pigs for butchering, and have had goats and sheep that we rotationally grazed. Right now I am not up for more animals on my own, but if someone else wants to take on animals that's great. There is a lot of potential here and I am absolutely open to new ideas with a new partner. I would love a root cellar, a big wood shed, more trees, and a small addition on our little old farmhouse.

I do not have a tractor or other machines, I prefer hand tools (although I do use some battery powered tools), and we live mostly off-grid but have some amenities. We have electricity in the barn (300 feet from the house) but not the house. We do charge a couple small batteries to use a light and power the landline. I currently have internet for my daughter in high school but plan to get rid of it (The library with internet is 7 miles away). I have water coming in to the house from a ram pump, and we use a bucket toilet. I do have a laptop.

We have sand hill cranes that come through our valley, bard owls at night, many songbirds. I love hot tea in the early mornings and watching the sunrise. I love deep conversation, long walks/hikes, and believe in the importance of community and generosity. I do not like how everything has become commodified.

I am very loving, passionate, honest, committed, and genuine. I am only interested in monogamous relationships. I am spiritual but not religious.

I love to read both fiction and nonfiction. I want a man who is also a reader. I am currently reading Paul Kingsnorth's Against the Machine along with some friends, to talk about together. I am anti-technology, believing it is only hurting us, isolating us, and numbing us.

I do not have a smartphone. I do have a flip-phone to be on call for midwifery, but use it only for voice calls and mostly only when I am on call. I have never texted and will not. I love writing letters and would be happy to exchange real letters with someone.

I am 5'4", average build, long brown hair. I don't want a picture on the internet but I will send you one.

Hoping to hear from the right man. You are welcome to ask me more questions.

Hello May,
You have written a lovely post here. Thanks for articulating your position/values so succinctly! I am in Michigan, but hoping to connect with someone like you. I know you aren’t moving, you’ve got a good place, but the picture you’ve painted is compelling! I hope you find the perfect partner. It sounds like you’ve established a solid lifestyle, and a good man will be happy to join you! I sure would if I didn’t have 40 acres of my own here!  That said, if you know anyone (Or, if you’re reading this and looking for a place to join in in Michigan….holla!)
Thanks again, May, I wish you immense luck and happiness!!   Carlton, Carlandia CannaCamp

Carlton, that is very kind, thank you. I do of course hope I find someone, but I think the difficulty for most of us on here, at least in my age range, is that we already have established places we don't want to move from. And I live in a very rural area, a few hours from cities in all directions, so fewer people (men to meet!). In my case I also have children at home (and nearby) and they are very connected here. So I guess I hope that after getting to know me for a while the right man will ultimately decide moving is worth it.

I do not know any other single women who are similar to me in how they want to live, if I hear of one that is willing to move I will tell her to check this out! I hope you find the right woman that will move to your place. You might consider posting on here? I appreciate it when people have a detailed post, sometimes there is really just not enough to go on.

Best wishes to you!

good morning, retiring 56 year old outdoors man who does not have social media does not watch the news although thoroughly enjoys all of gods creations fishing and hunting, I googled wanting to start a homestead and a woman to share a lifestyle of homesteading more, am looking and wanted to say good morning

so to ad my response, I as well, do not want my picture on any style of internet as well I still write checks, I do have a somewhat modern home meaning electricity, I am a very simple man who is lookin for a monogamous lifestyle for a lifetime with one person, I am very deep as well a christian man, I do enjoy fishing  and have a boat I build alot of my own things in my home and am an avid hunter as well, although is pend 2-3 weeks a year in the mountains for elk I have been doing that in wall tents and enjoy that small time away from all the world, I want a life away further from the wrongs in the world, I live in the country and have decided to retire to enjoy and be contempt in this last chapter of life. like said did google and was a breath of air to see your post I dam not a tester and would rather see and speak in person, you enjoy tea I enjoy to wake and read my bible as the the sun comes to life, look forward to your response.
Thank you

Thank you to the people that responded by PM. I just wanted to add that I of course recognize that moving here would not be soon or taken lightly - there would of course need to be time to develop a relationship and be sure of such a decision. How does that work? I am not exactly sure. I just know that me moving is not an option, and I believe in Love. I want to be open to men all over because I think what I am looking for and who I am is so different from most people and I am so rural that it seems hard to happen to find close by, although of course that would be the easiest!

About asking for an intellectual man - I don't mean this to sound obnoxious - I just want someone who really likes to read and think and talk and welcomes and enjoys long thoughtful conversations. Whether or not you have had formal schooling is not important.

Please feel free to ask me questions!

Hope everyone is having a beautiful fall - our leaves are changing now and the weather is that perfect fall temperature when it is amazing to be outside at all times.

Hey May,

 Let me start off by saying, I appreciate how you communicate.  I’m 43 and it seems like most women in my age bracket do not understand intellectual men.  What ever happened to writing letters and deep conversations? Well unfortunately like you stated, technology.  I currently have a descent amount of fruit trees that I grow in an espalier fashion.  I’m the type that enjoys being outdoors and currently have a nice garden.  My goal is to find a place where I can find more peace.  The noise of traffic is like nails on a chalkboard to me, and ultimately most people nowadays are noisy.  Definitely would be interested in further conversation.  

How else would one get ahold of someone perfectly placed outside the mstrix?