paul wheaton wrote:The question was "do you want to be right, or be in a relationship?"
I think the question is seriously fucked up. It basically puts forth the premise that you cannot be in a relationship unless you sacrifice your values and your decency and are willing to become wholly a servant to another. I would like to modify the question to "what sort of relationship do you have where you are not permitted to be right?"
I think the question is flawed. The question suggests that these two things are mutually exclusive. They are not.
Fred Morgan wrote:
It is never about being right, because honestly, no one is. We only really know enough to be dangerous at any given time, and those who are the most wrong, are those who think they are right.
Nina Jay wrote:Now this is taking the discussion again to a new level. This is also true. I'm tempted to quote Fukuoka: "Humanity knows nothing". Right and wrong are examples of the dicotomy inherent in the way humans think. In nature there is no right or wrong.
Fred Morgan wrote:
Being confident you are right, just says that you are not as knowledgeable and wise as you think you are.
If rocket stoves are half as good at squeezing usable heat out of a stick of wood as their proponents make them out to be, sign me up, but in the meantime the hyped numbers surrounding them really only mystifies the subject.
Sasha Goldberg wrote:Hi,
But, I really do think that most people want leadership. Not someone to dictate their every step but someone with vision and plan to see that vision come to be.
Neil Evansan wrote:I've been on this Earth a couple years now, and it's been my observation and experience that in ones quest (or need) to be right, there is typically an equal (and sometimes greater) need for "those others" to be wrong.
Petra Smirnoff wrote:It's not about being right or wrong, just sharing.
Fred Morgan wrote:. One thing that has helped me in the past as well is never assume anyone is aiming at me. If you wish to pick a fight with me (not you, anyone), you are going to have to be really obvious, otherwise, I am going to act like I must be reading what someone said wrong, because surely someone wouldn't be so poorly raised as to talk like that...
nancy sutton wrote:A factoid - per some expert - 85% or so of us are mainly extroverts (i.e., we become uncomfortable when alone for long) and the minority of us are mainly introverts who, while enjoying folks, become uncomfortable without significant alone time.
Jeanine Gurley wrote:I posted about this podcast in the tinkering forum but want to also add my two cents here:
If the “friends” need me to go along with values and belief systems that I don’t agree with, and if they mock and disdain the things that I do, then they are not friends. I would much rather be alone than be with people like that. And that is pretty much every one I know.
My own company is not so bad, and I can connect with my virtual friends for an exchange of mutually appreciated thoughts and ideas.
But do I need to be ‘right’? I’m never right – but I do need to be true to myself; right, wrong or otherwise.