Hello Windy,
I just wanted to wish you luck. My family and I (Jay and I have a 10 month old and 5 year old sons) are looking for the same thing from where we live now in the Northwest. I've heard people talk like there are a lot of opportunities like that out here but I think you may run into more of what you've found. We were thinking of looking into Eugene, Oregon, and also from here a lot of Montessori school's have preschool programs that are really cool for the kids and most seem like they encourage parents to be involved. I've heard of
permaculture programs at the schools in Hood River, Oregon which is just up the gorge from Portland.
We wish you luck! And we'll try to update you if we have any ourselves