R Ranson: Great photos. Yes, it's easy to look at a flower and see if it's got male parts or if they are missing. Your flower looks like a normal kale flower to me. It has anthers. The anthers are the right color. Looks like they have pollen on them. A test I do is brush my finger against the anthers. If it gets a streak of pollen on it then I figure they're good to go.
Hybrids of plants with tiny flowers are often made commercially by using one parent line that doesn't produce pollen. Brassica plants with cytoplasmic male sterility typically lack anthers. And without anthers they can't produce pollen. They also typically lack nectaries. So there is little to attract pollinators except for the color of the flowers. The honeybees can tell. At my place they'll be all over normal brassica flowers and boycott sterile flowers. It's my general policy to not hand pollinate flowers unless I'm making hybrids. But no harm done if you want to try. Brassicas are often self-incompatible, so if you move pollen, best results are expected if you move it between plants, not between flowers on the same plant.
In my garden, brassica plants sometimes get blown over and die before producing seed. To minimize lodging I usually put posts in the row and do a California Weave and/or twist the branches around each other so that they support each other. Some types of brassica pods split open readily when the pods are dry. That can lead to seeds falling onto the ground and getting lost. That can be minimized by watching the plant and picking at the appropriate time, or by bagging the seed head after flowering. In my garden, grasshoppers sometimes eat young brassica seed pods: Even every seed on the plant. I don't try to prevent that. I figure that I want to select for plants that are resistant to grasshopper predation of the seeds. I suppose that finches could also take the seeds.
I don't have a photo of a sterile kale flower, but the same general pattern exists in carrots. So here's what a normal carrot flower looks like. It's got lots of male parts, just like the kale flower in the original post.
A male-sterile carrot flower is devoid of male parts.