As a person who has tried and failed with an unwieldy group that never made any headway, I can tell you some things not to do. For the sake of not sounding overly negative, I will give some positive advice first, and follow it up with some red flags to watch out for.
Go and visit a bunch of established intentionally communities that are working, and see for yourself. A lot of places run workshops,
sell their produce locally and are open to tours, have huge waiting lists for newcomers but welcome visitors anyway. See IC.org for lots more information and a directory of intentional communities near you. In that directory you will also find a constantly fluctuating list of “intended” intentional communities which come and go because it just didn’t gel for whatever reason. Seek out truly like-minded people to avoid future conflict.
Some of the good things I learned from my bad experience were:
Don’t give up your ideals to make a dream work
Don’t make a piece of
land your central goal or you’ll make sacrifices you might regret
Decide which practices and habits will and won’t be allowable, and consequences for not honoring that system so people have some recourse when someone is making things unliveable for others
Decide how future decisions will be made (I’ve realized there’s nothing wrong with the benevolent dictatorship approach after watching consensus FAIL without strong leadership or commitment from general membership. Despite a lot of talk about “freedom” people generally wanted to be told what to do.)
On the same note, if people always NEED to be told what to do, they might not be the best candidates? Look for people who have a lot of creative input and don’t just stand on the sidelines.
Have a financial plan and agreement amenable to all parties that doesn’t benefit some over others or resentment will breed
Don’t suffer fools or bullies, they are equally destructive
Know a
lawyer
Trust your gut
Don’t invest a lot of time or
energy in people who are
overly secretive or promise huge returns; if it looks like a scheme, they are scammers
Sadly all of these lessons were learned through failure, over a period of years. And much of that had to do with seeking people in the wrong places, with too varied a background and goal.
What the serious and logical (small) membership among us decided on was something called a “tenancy in commons” agreement. You don’t need to incorporate, and it basically states members’ rights on a property, financial and otherwise.
I really do wish all who choose that path the best of luck, and strongly consider intentional community to be my ultimate goal, but I will go about it very differently next time.