Sarah Koster

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Semi-feral pseudo adult human. Intends to establish food forests and incorporate permaculture principles into lifestyle to facilitate non conscience-mangling existence.
Quail hatcher, chicken herder, garbage re-purposer.
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Lucrecia Anderson wrote:

Sarah Koster wrote:
Anyway I used to find jealousy endearing, but now I find it downright frightening because I know it's a form of hostility and can lead to abuse.

I would say beware of conflict in whatever form it takes. A whole lot of people need conflict in a relationship whether that takes the form of jealousy or arguments over stupid things or casual "funny degrading" insults. That is normal/natural/satisfying and required for many. Without it the relationship isn't satisfying or complete.

In my home I aim for 90% of everything I say to be positive. I love those I live with and want to show it every day.

Conflict/crazy CAN really amp up the sex...and that is okay just own that fact....don't go along happily and claim "victim status" later.

I would say at this point I want 100% to steer away from any such dynamic. If someone needs to put others down in order to feel good about him/herself, that person is not friend or mate material for me. I think we can do better than the apes at large and be satisfied with our persons without having to compete with or dominate others. Hierarchy is, in my opinion, a throwback that's blatantly maladaptive and disruptive to cooperation. The guys who were jealous over me both injured me physically, and were jealous over things like me painting my fingernails or brushing my teeth (i MUST be cheating if I'm painting my fingernails WTF) or the way I looked at some acquaintance of his. Yes that's right, over the way he thought I LOOKED AT one of his friends. And brought it up every few days for the duration of the relationship. Also he took money out of my wallet and insisted someone must have broken into the locked apartment in the middle of the night and taken it, every time I had money in my wallet. Now, I know that this person was particularly batshit. But I've learned that if someone is dependent on hurting me to feel good, they're not good peoples. I don't want this in my life. I don't want to make excuses for people. I'd rather be alone with a dog and three chickens for the rest of my life than be the host of an emotional or psychological parasite.
I think the "amping up" of sex is not all that great, it leads to injuries which make sex painful and unpleasant. It's a little disturbing to me that you implied that abuse victims are responsible for their partner's actions because they like the sex? I don't think it's accurate or appropriate. I kind of feel like you're accusing me. I think that kind of thinking is a way for abusers to rationalize mistreating and manipulating their partners. I'm not talking about sarcastic comments as abuse here, I'm talking about felonious assault that broke bone, kidnapping, death threats and the like.

Constantinos Avgeris wrote:Thank You for the sites. Do you know if you can grow it without the hull?

I think as long as the grain is intact with the germ it should be fine? You could try to sprout some first, if they'll sprout I'm pretty sure they'd grow fine. I don't know of any reason they would need an intact husk in order to grow, but I've never grown cereals.

Mike Jay wrote:Sarah, I've been curious about something but haven't had the time to research it.  Maybe this would interest you: 

Some plants don't grow in my zone (4a) because it's apparently too cold.  I suspect that there are different death modalities for each type of plant.  Some die from the limbs getting below X degrees and that kills the whole plant.  Some die from the ground freezing to a depth of Y inches.  Some could die due to a period of warmth above Z degrees followed by colder temps.  I'm sure there are other ways they die.  I've wondered if this could be sorted out and made simple enough for my brain so that if I have a microclimate I can experiment with the best zone 5 plant possible.  I have sunny, low wind microclimates that don't have as much snow cover.  Some plants would handle that, some might not but I don't know which.  In that case the branches may be warmer but the roots may freeze harder due to less snow cover.  So a plant that handles Indiana weather (still cold and the ground probably freezes harder than WI) might be great for me to try.

Yes, this is more along the lines of the kind of research I was thinking of! ^_^;; While I'm fascinated with psychology and can put a lot of energy into reading about it when I'm okay, but the topic in question is much too close to home for me to want to delve into right now. I'm recovering from surgery after being assaulted by someone with a very high ACE score and my grandmother is dying, so I'm trying to look after my dad and sister while my mom looks after her mother. So looking up stuff about plants is much more pleasant distraction at the moment.
I've done some thinking about this one too, there are a lot of plants which are strongly influenced by day length as far as the maturation and dormancy cycles. Even during a very warm autumn, the trees will drop their leaves once the the daylight drops below so many hours, and I'm surprised there's not more of a dual classification that addresses both latitude/daylight suitability and climate. Heck, our zone system doesn't even take precipitation into consideration. So I'm thinking, those varieties that require more daylight for longer than is available, are probably a bust regardless of microclimate. (Like bananas.) Soil temperature is affected by composition, light exposure, terrain and so forth. I think that plants with a shallow root system will tend to be more sensitive to soil temperature.
Anyway are there certain types of plants that you're particularly interested in or enjoy eating?
task: sort plants according to mode of death from cold.
1 week ago
Trace, do you have a way of excluding eggs and baby mealworms from the beetles and larger mealworms? I was probably just a terrible caretaker for this, but I would sometimes forget to give my worms fresh vegetable for water and they'd take to cannibalism, especially of pupas. I also had a problem where there'd be dark spots on some of the pupae, and if they lived those beetles had deformities where the spots had been. I was kind of disgusted with myself after the last brood so it's been a few years since I raised them, but I'd like to try again if I can do so without making my mealworms sick. I think if I used mesh on the lids instead of just holes, isolated pupae til they became beetles and put beetles in fresh subtrate/container to lay eggs, and was more diligent to change the moisture-source vegetable I'd have a lot less problems.
1 week ago
Please don't turn my thread into an ulcer factory ^_^;;; I don't think people go there to look for volunteers. Very interesting stuff though guys, I was lazy today and gonna read the whole pagey dealy shibang before I get to it. Gotta know exactly what I'm looking for before I go looking.
1 week ago
How much do you need? I raised my mealworms on oatmeal from the grocery store. I just had a small box (about the size of a shoebox, but plastic.)
It would be nice to source some that is free of pesticides and diatomaceous earth... never realized that might be part of the mix til I read about it here. Eventually they got infested with some kind of moth and I fed the worms and beetles to my birds. :/
1 week ago
That is indeed an interesting topic. I'm afraid I already have strong prejudices based on my personal experience, but this shouldn't affect my ability to accumulate relevant information.
I have noticed that, while all persons I've observed to exhibit primarily antisocial behaviors experienced abuse, neglect and/or abandonment by their biological mother, not all the people I know who've been abused/abandoned by their mothers exhibit antisocial behaviors.
I assume we can exclude hunting/killing livestock for food from violence against animals?
This seems to me to be a lot about empathy, and to whom/what an individual is able to extend it. I'm interested to see whether there's a negative correlation between self-harm vs other-harm in people with high ACE scores. Are you familiar with RAD, Reactive Attachment Disorder? To my understanding it's basically the diagnosis assigned to children who've been passed around from caretaker to caretaker, unable to form stable bonds with them, who exhibit antisocial behavior.
1 week ago

L. Tims wrote:Some would have us all become vegans and do away with animal agriculture altogether. I don't like this, I think animal foods are at the very least a psychological and traditional necessity, and likely a physical one in some way we haven't figured out scientifically yet. The 'Murican way is to say screw efficiency and keep animals on good cropland. I don't think this is right either.

There are nutrients that people can't produce in their own bodies, that aren't truly available in vegetable sources. The one I'm most familiar with is B-12. There is in fact extant research that demonstrates that the human body does in fact need SOME animal-based food to be healthy. Probably not nearly as much as the average American consumes, however, it is not possible to be truly vegan and yet not suffer malnutrition. B-12 is important in regulating mood, protecting and facilitating neurological health. Someone with a B-12 deficiency suffers from low energy, cognitive problems and mood problems.
From what I have read, hugelkultur and other permaculture gardens benefit from grazing, if it's done right. Animals can help reduce pests (EG ducks devouring bugs) and introduce nutrients to the soil by pooping. You can even design permaculture pasture specifically tailored to your livestock. We have lovely threads about what plants to include in chicken pastures, goat pastures, even rabbit and guinea pig pastures. I think it indicates we are shifting the way we use and raise animals, rather than eliminating the need for them.
1 week ago
Old cereal box cardboard, folded over and taped shut might be enough to protect DVDs. I remember netflix started out shipping DVDs in really flimsy envelopes with no apparent large-scale damage to the product.
I think butcher paper or waxed paper could also be useful in shipping, since they help repel water.
1 week ago

Constantinos Avgeris wrote:Does anyone know where to buy einkorn seeds? Tried one person on Etsy and the shipment got lost so now i need another source. Thank You
I haven't researched any of these companies so I'm sure how good/reasonable their products are and such. I hope this helps though.