Hi Pearl, As a soon to be 55 year old male,[birthday is 3 weeks] widower of 4.5 years I find the same problem that you have. I also am not the online personal site type. I live in central New Hampshire . Own my own homestead with no mortgage and debt free. But it seems like I don't fit it with the modern women in my age group. They seem to like the immature idiots , liars and abusive cheaters. I feel your frustration its not just you.