Nicole Alderman wrote:Sometimes, perhaps, Dale's writing comes off sounding to some people like he might be a "jerk." Sometimes I wondered this myself... And then he went out of his way, to a country far away, to work his butt off for a moderator who had just lost her husband.
Here's a thread detailing all that https://permies.com/t/85903/permaculture-projects/work-Burra-place-visiting-Portugal
Actions speak louder than words. "Game" or not, Dale has a great heart. Some of us may not like "game"--but that doesn't mean it's wrong, and there are probably ladies that DO like "game" and one of them might be the perfect lady for Dale. I hope so. Dale's a great guy!
Dale is one of those characters who very much marches to the beat of his own drum. When he first joined here, he was a nightmare to moderate but when he understood the aims and working of the site he tempered his writing to be within publishing standards, just... Over the years we've developed a deep mutual respect and when he travelled so far to help me when I was at my weakest and most vulnerable he was so much more than just the perfect gentleman - supportive, helpful, insightful, to both me and my son, and helped to pull me back up to some kind of functionality and start getting my place back under control, always assessing everything that was happening, choosing where best to use his skills and energies, and always talking everything through with me before actually doing anything to make sure I was in full agreement and felt in control.
Yes, he might come over as arrogant in some of his writing, but he's too honest to temper his speech to suit the faint of heart. He's a very real man sharing his own very real ideas in his own way. I have utmost respect for that and I think a lot of us could learn that just because someone doesn't view the world as we do that doesn't mean that they don't have a ton of stuff to teach us.
As for choosing partners, I do now have a new partner, though it's very early days yet. Did I follow any of the advice in this or the sister thread? Nope, I just chose my oldest and most trusted friend, who was still single after all these years, and basically said 'You 'n me - how about it?
' Which I guess means that if you just keep being yourself, there's a chance that, eventually, the girl will find you! Course by then she probably doesn't really qualify as 'girl' any more, but hey...