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in 2009, my mother was diagnosed with alzheimers
in 2009, i made the difficult decision to move her to my house
in 2009, she was sent to a specialty hospital where she could be further diagnosed, and have a medical plan arranged by a team of neurologists, psychiatrists, and medical doctors, while there, we moved her things from her little apartment into my home
in april of 2018, we moved here...mom and her no tailed black cat in tow...to our new homestead...half the size of our old home...half the amount of land to take care of...and 5 hours away from anyone we knew and all we loved...
mom and i were stranded here for one week before marty could get back up with our horses...the last thing to move...and our truck broke down...so he was down south in the timberlands and mom, myself and the no tailed cat were here during that time...i would spend any spare second i had putting up panels and preparing a place for the horses...that would be when mom was either asleep or quiet...somehow, it got done...but, this thread is about a room for mom...so, here goes...

her bed was set up in the back room...where she and i snuggled to keep warm with three electric heaters (we had no firewood, no central heat, or stoves to put firewood in.  although there was a fireplace in the front room of the cabin...it had been years since it had been used...and needed a good inspection before trying to burn it...and that would take someone smarter than me! :) there is a door from the front room that leads to the bedroom...and i set up a small tv and dvd player to keep mom entertained while i began work on what was to be her room...and i wanted her room PERFECT for her!!!

when we bought this cabin, we bought it not for what it was, but the hope of what was to be...

everything, including the fireplace, had been totally painted white with some kind of something (who would do that to these beautiful moss rocks...) no matter how much paint thinner, drill powered scrubbing, coke, soap and water, vinegar and baking soda, paint stripper, wire brushes...etc. i used, nothing would even begin to penetrate!!! never seen anything like it!!!  i had run out of options on the mountain, and had no way to go get anything other that what we had brought with us...so, because i had already decided what color i wanted her room to be, and had stopped at a hardware store and bought that and interior painting supplies on one of the trips up prior to... i had enough to paint mom's institutional white room with a concrete floor...

i never intended a move to an inner city condo...i wanted a cowboy cabin...and that meant mom was gonna have to play along...and since she is no longer at a place where she can articulate her wishes...i had, over the years, developed this ability to play both ends...mom would love the condo in the city...i wanted a cowboy cabin...and we were here...on a concrete floor...walls, wood, and rock fireplace ALL painted with a bright white paint that would NOT come off (because of the fumes, i couldn't have used an acid...thus my attempt with the coke, which actually worked better than anything--ill NEVER drink a coke again)

i painted her room a soothing coconut color and 'fauxed leathered' over that with a saddle tan using leather chamois.  unpacked a box that contained some of my old paint...hadn't painted anything in a while...but, boy did lights go off in my head...and that is where the fireplace painting began...fake it till ya make it, right ???!!! :)

one by one...each rock was painted with an acrylic craft paint, and then stained with a penetrating walnut color stain...hey, it was all i had! ;)

almost a year into it....still not too many signs of wear...a little faded...maybe some sealer?  didn't want it to be too fake looking....will keep ya updated...at least for up to now, it is holding up pretty good, so that i can concentrate on other things...and mom likes it :)...but, soon i will need to do something to make it a little more vibrant if it is fading any more...any ideas to toss around???

 
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I wish my Mum was still here to look after. All the very best to you for doing this. X
 
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Teri,
What a lovely way to breathe some natural aesthetic into your mom's room. Staining those painted rocks looks spectacular. Even if your mom isn't able to articulate her appreciation, you can be sure that she appreciates it. It's heart-warming to hear a story of someone taking good care of their parent rather than leaving it up to strangers. Saying that, I hope you do have the support you need to take care of your mom and yourself.

Bless you and your family!

 
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Teri,

Those stones look great! What an improvement!

My dad is partially paralyzed and in the early stages of Alzheimer’s, and I am his caretaker. My uncle lives nearby and is in the later stages. Both my paternal grandparents died with it, and I was involved in their care. My mom (my parents are divorced) is a registered nurse and was a home health nurse and later director of nurses at a couple of nursing homes. If you ever need to vent or want me to run a question or problem by my mom, feel free to purple mooseage me.
 
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It looks really good. I think you did a great job!
 
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Jennifer Richardson wrote:Teri,

Those stones look great! What an improvement!

My dad is partially paralyzed and in the early stages of Alzheimer’s, and I am his caretaker. My uncle lives nearby and is in the later stages. Both my paternal grandparents died with it, and I was involved in their care. My mom (my parents are divorced) is a registered nurse and was a home health nurse and later director of nurses at a couple of nursing homes. If you ever need to vent or want me to run a question or problem by my mom, feel free to purple mooseage me.



jennifer...i too come from a long line of alzheimer's.  i appreciate your shout out...and have made note...mom has wonderful doctors...and her visits to their offices have now been cut to once every 6 mos...that is good for us...when we moved here...i became quite frustrated with her new doctors because they wanted to check this and check that and do this and do that...the one question i have always presented them (mom is getting on up there in age) is, 'will it fix it.' of course the answer is no...and my answer is...if it wont fix it...let us continue being about the business of living...we are NOT going to spend one second longer than absolutely needed hanging around in a hospital or any other facility for that matter :)  we medicate as very little we can...and NEVER in the daylight hours...only to help her sleep at night...those legs just fly around everywhere...LOL

i have completely cleaned off the side deck for her this winter...and plan on putting up gates (locked) so that she can move freely from one end to the other while i am out playing in the dirt! :)  she just walks and talks...someone there talking back...and to be honest with you...one thing has remained a constant in my life...and that was her devotion to me...never once has she not been a part of my life...in a BIG way :)  perfect, no, but i wasn't raised to expect her to be :)  

thank you so much...i am glad you reached out...maybe there are others who are caring for the ageing on their homestead...it is a remarkable blessing, really...to be able to do so...full of challenges for sure...but, i wouldn't have changed a thing :)  i have a caretaker that we hire to come in for 3 days a week and stay around 8 hrs each of those days... :)  i learned pretty early on about that necessity! :)

hey...and it goes two ways...if i can ever help you with anything, or be a place to vent, just let me know :)
 
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