"run the site my way or else I will leave"

Paul Wheaton, this is your site. You make the rules.  You’ve created an informative site and a safe site for people to come share. Perhaps it’s time to extend the safety umbrella over the staff too. If people misbehave, give them a warning and explanation. Expect an apology. If they continue to misbehave, lock them out.

Since I’m a medical professional, I believe in cutting out the cancer so that the organism can live. I had to remind myself of this when I fired an employee. It turned out to be the right decision. Difficult for me to do , but extremely beneficial to the rest of the staff.