I'll mention it gently and lightly; I personally am not a fan of milk replacers for the reasons that I see a lot of 'poor condition' babies who are on it. There's a LOT of strong opinion about this subject both ways and I'm not trying to stir the pot. I also understand that milk isn't always available, especially in the quantities a large animal needs. I'm not saying milk replacer is bad, just that it seems to result in poor quality fur, skin, and other immune- and condition related things. Some people just consider these things normal, a "normal part of childhood' kind of thing, something they 'grow out of'. If, per chance, the formula is contributing to the gunky ears, keeping them clean until weening would be the solution there. Store-bought 'formulated' feeds may also lend to this, as they are often heavily processed and contain dyes, preservatives, and other processing chemicals that bodies don't like very much. Just my $.02, my own opinions based on my own experiences
The nipping, I have no idea. I'm not a horse person (I'm assuming donkeys have similar social dynamics to horses). Horses love to bully me and I never quite manage to speak their language. Pretty much every other animal I've been around I've figured out how to speak on their level. Not the equine variety though, alas. Hopefully someone else will chime in on that

My only suggestion would be set hard and consistent boundaries with the little stinker, but what that looks like for a donkey I don't know. I usually try to think in terms of "what would mama animal do if baby was doing this to her?"