Why loose heat instead of taking some safety measures around the hot water intake to make shure the fish can't come to close?
The speed of the pump would also regulate the temperature if you pump water from the tank, past the rocket stove and back into the tank.
I guess there must be some kine of regulaters out there that can also regulate the speed of the pump?
Maybe also hook up a GSM system with a thermostat sending you a message when the temperature drops.. =o)
Aquaponics with rocket mass heater:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-NAPFdMdyZk