the automaticley generated replys to my posts end up in my spam place

I didnt even know i had such a place untill my partner showed me
so if i havnt replied to somthing i should have Sorry

Depending on your email provider, you should have an option:

OPEN the mail in your spam folder, then click on "NOT SPAM" or whatever your provider calls it.
By doing this, the spam filter should learn that the sender isn't a spammer.
It might take a day or two, but it should learn that permies.com sends stuff you want to read.

Ta ! John.

I recently registered and was surprised to see the initial email in my spam folder. I noticed that permies.com doesn't have an SPF record. It would probably help a lot in keeping emails out of the spam folder and doesn't cost anything except a few minutes of time to create the DNS entry. Here is an easy wizard to create a record (assuming you know the technical details): http://spfwizard.com/

At one point we did have the SPF records. Looks like a recent change.

John (apple for you),

Thanks - I think we are now set. how does it look?

Gmail sees the SPF record now, but a password reset request still went to the Spam folder. /shrug

Received-SPF: pass (google.com: domain of permies@permies.com designates 64.78.181.87 as permitted sender) client-ip=64.78.181.87;
Authentication-Results: mx.google.com;
spf=pass (google.com: domain of permies@permies.com designates 64.78.181.87 as permitted sender) smtp.mail=permies@permies.com

I'll keep marking them Not Spam and see what happens.