So, the below writing is something I find is really important, but it was also something I just needed to write down, so it would take up less space in my head.
Earlier today on
Facebook one of my friends told me and everyone else, that she is getting married.
She asked her married friends, for advice on what makes for a happy marriage. I wrote my
answer before I read the others, to see how it compared. 98% of the answers, was open communication including mine.
It made me happy to see that so many others really get it. All you normally hear about is divorce. Earlier this week I saw a billboard by the Highway.
The add was for wedding planners, but the add was sponsored by a group of divorce attorneys. It kind of put some things in perspective, and made me question people’s reasons for marriage.
That’s why it was wonderful to read about all of those healthy solid marriages out there, since what we mostly hear about, are the ones that didn’t work out.
Divorce has always stumped me. Yes, a partnership can turn out to be a mistake and toxic, but I think, that in many cases it’s about lack of good honest communication, flexibility and unfulfilled needs. In my opinion too many men and women today, are so afraid of ending up alone, that they aren’t honest with a prospective partner to begin with. The honesty starts before marriage. You marry for love, but are making a lifelong commitment. I keep reading about couples getting married early, because they can just get a divorce if things don’t work out. I feel that most of those relationships are doomed from the start, since they haven’t been honest with each other from the beginning.
That’s what gives you headlines like “Man demands divorce, after seeing wife without makeup, says it was false advertising”.
Advertising…. Hmm
I know I have kept writing marriage, but I think this goes for all partnerships, not just marriages. If you aren’t completely honest it’s doomed to fail, whether it’s love or work communication is the key.
My children don’t understand why I don’t keep secrets from their father, but I hope, that one day they will see, that secrets can be a tiny crack in a partnership, that slowly will grow larger and larger and times go by. Why? Because secrets and lies undermines the foundation of a good relationship. (And no, I am not talking about keeping gifts secret 😘).
This is why I got so happy by reading the advices my friend asked for. We all agreed that open honest communication is the key to happiness and a long healthy partnership.
Any thoughts?
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