Loneliness kills. My journey

I started looking for a homestead after my divorce. Rural living had been my dream for ages, but not his. Begun studying old farming skills, traditional homemaking and animal husbandry. Took me five years to find The Place.

I have been living here part-time for 7 months and full-time for almost a year. I love everything about this lifestyle! I have no electricity, heat with wood from my own forest, have a tiny house (200sqf), travel by bike, tend a huge vegetable garden and an orchard. Every day I think I am blessed.

But I do this alone. In the winter, I would spend weeks without seeing another human being. Permies was an enormously important source of companionship and intelligent discussions.

And that "alone" has been the breaking point. Every man I have dated has seen my lifestyle as an an impossibly hard return to a medieval life.  

People think it muts be hard living without fossil fuels in a tiny home and growing your own food. That has been a pleasure!  But doing it alone has been excruciating. My dad (84y) has been the only person who understands my lifestyle choice and supports me  I think he has been visiting me so often because he saw I do not have anybody else.

And a month ago, the heavens saw my sorrow! I met Marcus, son of a farmer, environmentalist. Strikingly intelligent with agreat sense of humour. A soulmate.

I am in love. Please wish us luck. I know I am good at running a medieval farm, but doing it alone was crushing me.

Kaarina Kreus wrote:People think it muts be hard living without fossil fuels in a tiny home and growing your own food. That has been a pleasure!  But doing it alone has been excruciating. My dad (84y) has been the only person who understands my lifestyle choice and supports me  I think he has been visiting me so often because he saw I do not have anybody else.

And a month ago, the heavens saw my sorrow! I met Marcus, son of a farmer, environmentalist. Strikingly intelligent with agreat sense of humour. A soulmate.

I am in love. Please wish us luck. I know I am good at running a medieval farm, but doing it alone was crushing me.

Kaarina, I can confidently say that your Permies family is wishing you luck, and every happiness. There is no substitute for having a partner to share the joys of a homestead; that is how we are designed.

P.S., Please buy your father a "virtual beer" on my tab. I get the feeling he is a good egg.

Douglas, my father has been the greatest supporter I could have hoped for. We share the same values, get intrigued about same things and share jokes. Everybody smiles at us "  easy to see you are related".
I will treat him extra well next time he comes.

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Kaarina, I can confidently say that your Permies family is wishing you luck, and every happiness. There is no substitute for having a partner to share the joys of a homestead; that is how we are designed.
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I know. This forum has been an enormous source of support and intelligent discussions. Last winter, I wrote a thread about being humbled, and the ensuing discussion was absolutely great!

https://permies.com/t/208869/thought-prepared-turns-sickness-whacked

Permies is such a positive, supportive network. Thank Paul for that.

I wish you well, its sounds like a great opportunity.