I plant my peach seeds in a nursery bed for all of the reasons you mention above. Sometimes I plant them in pots but last year I had so many I did both...the nursery bed (the bottom of an old
compost pile) had almost 100 percent germination and the pots much less. I have apple seeds up in some planters too. Things just disappear if I plant out tree seed... either the deer or one of us with the sythe, sickle or mower wipe it out. The problem I see now is digging the peaches...judging from the top I have over a foot of tap root to dig in very rocky soil. I think if I catch a rainy week over the winter here I can move them more easily.
But persimmons just keep appearing on their own...I just remove the ones that I don't want.
I dont notice transplant shock with peaches from seed or pie cherry suckers that I planted after growing in pots for a year or two but I have never tried apples before.
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