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Long story short, I inherited money when my real dad died, bought a home, bought land, my step dad of twenty years who was also my best buddy turned out to be a con man and stole  it ALL!

That was 2017, life for quite a while after that was kind of in limbo, spent a good chunk of change on a lawyer and document creating for a court case, only to find when we went to serve him, he had vanished. Contemplated my death, contemplated his death, spent many days not getting out of bed, not taking care of myself, it turns out hate is terrible for your health though to my dismay it presents as cataracts, thyroid issues and a root canal infection so bad that I required dental implants and a mouth full of crowns to correct

2025, I have two successful grown men that will of course always be my children and married for twenty five years to a man seventeen years my senior, no more home that is paid off, now we have a mortgage. My sense of security and ability to maintain life as I know it financially when (most likely) the inevitible happens was stolen back in 2017.

My boys of course claim to intend to look out for me under the circumstances should that event arise, tI appreciate this of course but I simply find that unacceptable, I was supposed to have something to leave them in the end, not the other way around. I understand the concept I had my turn, they will have theirs and all, it just isn't something I am comfortable with. I want them to live their lives, I don't need looking after, end of story.

So anyway, I do have equity in this current home despite the mortgage. I honestly would not want to live in this house alone, this is actually a nicer house, but the other one had the better neighborhood. Under the right curcumstances, if I am careful, I should be okay financially (depending on inflation of course as well as the unknown timing or outcome of the financial collapse I believe we ALL know is inevitible).

I am hoping to find a community somewhere that isn't too cold or hot (menopause ugh) to join. Not interested in seeking romance as a solution either. Twenty five years will take some time to adjust and what not to decide if I am even interested in being open to anything like that in the future.

Who am I, well, I am not everyone's cup of tea, I have a unbreakable moral compass, and yet I don't have much respect for authority figures, unjustified laws, or Government. I know right from wrong, I don't need Government to dictate how I should  live my life, especially when it comes to my health, what I do or don't put in my body. In general I have little use for the medical industry, I think modern medicine for the most part does more harm than good. If I need surgery, that might be different but I have no use for "routine" checkup's where doctors look for reasons to prescribe chemical concoctions that cause side effects resulting in even more chemical concoctions  which in reality result in shortened lifespans and lower quality of life. I can manage blood pressure, even cancer I believe I am fully capable of treating quite easily actually without all the nasty side effects.

I am not perfect by far, I am honest, I am a what you see is what you get, I don't like games, I don't bend to conform to fit some expected mold. I have no need for liars, deceptive, manipulative, or people with a superiority complex, I also am not fond of people that lack the ability to think for themselves.

I may not agree with how people choose to live their life or agree with their beliefs or the things they say but I respect their right to all of the above so long as they aren't harming other people. I would prefer to keep my distance from people who enjoy drinking on a regular basis as well as opiate users. I find the continuous lack of capability to have a coherent conversation with someone quite irritating, I also know a person in such a state will most likely never recover. I have no issues with 420 though it personally isn't my thing,  I do understand the organic version actually has many health benefits though to my understanding, to benefit healthwise eating it is the best choice Vs. smoking? That being said, despite what I am guessing is generally expected in regards to someone my age, I do indulge in psilocybin at lest a couple times a month and have to plans to give that up, I love them, I love the visuals the most, I consider them God's gift, I truly think it is a shame to live an entire lifetime and die without trying them once. I even know how to grow them.

I know I made this long, but I would rather be up front. Lastly, I don't believe it would be an issue if I had to provide my own source of shelter, RV, shipping container, tiny home, even electricity if need be. I am sure I could find a cheap piece of land and do it on my own but I honestly am not interested in that. I want to be part of something, I also believe in the safety in numbers as well as the belief in the only thing that will matter in the end being the connections we make with other living souls while we are here. It also is very important that my I am in a place where my boys don't have to worry about me all the time.

I have quite a few chickens, at the current time we don't consume them, I personally am not sure I am capable of the acts required to consume them, as it is I have 6 roosters despite only being allowed one per acre, all my roosters are silkies and two of them would literally love to spend every hour of every day in my arms if I would cooperate, they are just sweet as can be and Christmas eve we got 10 new chicks, I am hoping at least half  of them aren't roosters, as it is, I started out with one pen, that was all I wanted, I now have 4 .
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I can't help you with finding your space in the world, but I can tell you there are people on this forum battling cancer that would love to hear your thoughts on curing it.

Best of luck on your path.
 
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Hello Leslie!

Welcome to the forum!
It sounds like you have had quite a ride.  I am glad you are doing ok!

Wheaton labs is a wonderful, peaceful community.
https://wheaton-labs.com/

They have cozy cabins surrounded by gardens and tucked into the woods.  You can have the best of privacy and community.
You can rent a cabin long term, live in peace with your chickens and jump into community stuff when you fee like it.
If you want to build your own place or park an RV you can do that too.

Some folks come to Wheaton Labs to get a permaculture education, for these people we have the permaculture bootcamp!
https://permies.com/wiki/bootcamp

If you are interested and able to work 8 hours Monday - Friday, you will learn permaculture and homesteading skills needed to build and maintain a place, produce and preserve your food and meet most of your own basic needs in a clean and healthy way.  



Maybe this would work for you!
https://permies.com/t/267198/turnkey-permaculture-paradise-monies
 
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