I have two book recommendations! One is Susan Weed's "The New Menopausal Years" and the other is Christiane Northrup's "The Wisdom of Menopause"
Susan Weeds focuses on helping you deal with certain symptoms of pre/peri-menopause. She goes through her 6 steps of healing... Starting with the benign stuff and even covering the very conventional things you can do.
Christiane Northrup's I actually haven't read yet

BUT I have read her other books and she focuses a lot on the emotional aspects of health and I'm sure it's amazing, as is her other stuff.
Please let me know if you end up reading either and if you get anything out of them.