My wife and I had a conflict over 'you do what you have to' when we got married. She said dad used it as a phrase to justify behavior or choices that weren't exactly right. (looking back, I'm a little confused how she got that from him, because her dad was probably one of the most moral, consciously living men I've known, I'm guessing it was her feeling she should do something he thought was not necessary).
The point I am making is that we had to readjust our interpretations of each others words, and maybe adjust what words we used for us to communicate well with each other.
I find I still have to do that, but sometimes it seems like we are divided by a common language where the same words have different meanings.
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