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Julia Franke
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Does anyone else struggle with an internal fight between putting down roots and using your wings to fly?

I've always had two very strong longings in my life.

The first is agrarian dreams. Producing my own food (plant and animal), using minimal energy, and really healing the land.

The second longing is a longing for adventure. The idea of living in a van down by the river. Being a river rat, a thru hiker, a dirt bag, living out of the back of my car.

I used to live in a townhouse with no yard. During that time, I got my A-License in sky diving, I became a skilled whitewater kayaker (going over 20+foot waterfalls), and ran ultra marathons.

Now, we've bought a wonderful 2+ acre property and we've been here over two years. I've planted tons of trees(edible and otherwise), have a large laying flock, produce our own chicken meat, and have two turkeys on pasture to be butchered in fall. My garden increases in size every year. I can, ferment and flash freeze. And I love it.

But I really miss adventure. I miss staying in a tent over weekends. I miss having my heart pumping from excitement.

The idea of traveling, living in a tent seems wonderful (I've never done it to that extreme, but dream of it).

While having my adventures, I longed for my roots.

My Questions are: Do you have a dichotomy of wants/dreams? How do you design your life to honor both parts? Is this even possible?

Thank you for reading about my current conundrum.

PS - I am incredibly blessed. I hope that this did not come across as whiny or "woe is me". I love my life, I just long for What I don't have right now, and want to know if anyone else ever feels this way?

 
Miles Flansburg
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Hi Julia, So what is keeping you from doing both ? Money, time, travel distance...?
I don't do as much anymore and am not as bold as you are but I still manage to sneak out of the city(roots) to get back into the mountains that I love (wings) once a month.
Having a job that gives me a seven day off every month helps too.
 
Julia Franke
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So it's mostly time.
I work full time (it's a pretty time intensive and a rather stressful job).
And I have a 3 year old and two dogs.
In the summer, I harvest daily.
And the laying hens' eggs need to be collected daily.

To get someone to come out and watch the house is a HUGE request. I guess that's the biggest thing.

I tried to figure out how to do it all, but I can't seem to do it.

I talked to my husband about camping out just for overnight somewhere that we could bring the dogs.


 
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Julia Franke wrote:So it's mostly time.
To get someone to come out and watch the house is a HUGE request. I guess that's the biggest thing.


That is true, though I think there are probably many peple who would be very excited to do so, within the permies community and elsewhere. If you are worried about leaving your roots due to responsibilities, it might be worth considering finding a House-Sitter.
 
Miles Flansburg
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Sounds like it might be the stress too?
I understand.
We always tried to go camping ,boating or going to museums etc, on our days off. If there are things we could do within a couple of hours drive, we always found that to be helpful. We always took the kids with us so things were fairly tame but at least it breaks up the stress levels. Sometimes even a day trip might help.
Do you have any trusted neighbors that you sell or trade the eggs with? They might do the collection for you for a day or two at a time?
 
Julia Franke
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Yeah, I think you are right on, Miles.

And Dave, I actually may be getting a woman who I supply eggs to to look after our place for two days. I think she is kind of excited about it. Heck, I would have been a few years ago.

I guess it's just been a lot of change in the past few years.

My husband and I went from adventuring every weekend (and most nights after work) to having a different kind of adventure. We now own property and we're living the life I dreamed of. I'm doing a lot of stuff I'm really proud of, and I actually want to expand and put roots down deeper.

Over the past three years, we had a beautiful son, bought current house (with 2+ acres), I got a promotion (more work/more stress), My husband decided to be a stay at home dad, now he's starting his own business. So we do a lot of tag team parenting. I get off of work, while he's heading to work. I think I just am nostalgic. However, I think that by getting away for a few days, will be centering.

It's all so good. But sometimes good is hard.

I thank you for being so totally understanding. It was really cathartic to "talk" this out.
 
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For 20 years I have lived at job sites part time. Full time for about 12. Vans are suitable. Cars, not so much.

My most recent one was 2 weeks ago. I lived on the beach in Parksville BC as I prepared this house to be removed by barge. I charge $350 per day. My costs are minimal. I have met many transients who haven't figured out the money part.
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