There are so many variables that it is hardly possible to perform useful calculations. In general, for a fairly well insulated medium sized house in a climate with real winters but not brutally cold, an 8"/20cm system will usually work. Much of the published experience is with US building practices, so Swiss practices may be different enough that this is not accurate. It is not easy to make a RMH that is too big for a given building and climate; you simply fire it less often if your heating needs are lower, and the mass slowly radiates the heat.
There are rules of thumb for the size of bells that a given combustion unit can support to heat effectively without wasting heat up the chimney or taking so much that the draft suffers. Underfloor hypocaust or ondol arrangements may behave differently from a masonry-enclosed bell, I couldn't say.
There are several members here from Europe who may be able to give advice based more on your building and climate conditions. There are a number of European members at the rocket mass heater forum
http://donkey32.proboards.com who could give detailed advice.