City of NY has a standards book for bio-swales (green infrastructure they call it). It might be helpful.
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And I think there are many similar standards that you can implement. Tucson has some.
tuscon presentation Housing projects require some legal basis, so unfortunately not much liberty of thought is left I think. In many states they should be engineered.
Moreover if you do not have a city system to rely on, there is something that is critical. For such projects, one has to consider different rain events to determine the scale. For example, for my location, an annual average is 700 mm (27,5inch) per year (1/1 year event), 1 in 10 year event might be 900 mm (35 inch) , 1 in 50 year event might be 1200 mm (47 inch). 1/1 year event translates to 25 mm (10 inch) per day for my area (weather stations give this data). Making it more complicated each state/ nation has its own standards for this. Some require max intensity of 30 min rush to be considered. So which one I should consider while designing the capacities? That is always a bit of a problem.
Instead of directing all run off to a single basin, which will be a big big big project even for small areas, directing each to different sinks will help. Such as road run off to road side swales (I would go for a 1/10 year event, wouldn't want everywhere getting flooded each year), roof run off to rain barrels (1/1 event). If it overflows, water goes to the recreational pond (1/1 to 1/10 event) and then to a dry well/swale/ or a detention pond for it to overflow. And if it fails to hold all water (and it will definitely will, Murphy's law) one should consider a safety passage for the water to leave the property (1/50 year event).