From the little bit I know, it appears that you and your husband both have some genetic variants that have likely set you up to be more susceptible to environmental toxins. I don't have enough data to know this for sure, but it appears this way. The fact that you are living in a moldy home makes me suspect this as a culprit. If not the main culprit it would certainly add to your issues no matter if you were sensitive to it or not. I am going to be very straight-to-the point here.
Your home has been water-damaged. You have mold that grows currently. Even behind the furniture. You have active mycotoxins being formed and released and the old mycotoxins that build up over time.
Depending on the type of active mold it could be mildly irritating to the body or seriously irritating. This is to both people sensitive and non-sensitive. No one should live in a building with active mold from water-damage. When there is enough moisture to cause visual mold, it also means there is bacterial growth and release of inflammagens from the building materials that are being degraded by the mold and bacteria. Mold and bacteria will release toxins as they try to defeat each other for space. They are releasing these toxins to kill each other but these same toxins hurt humans and animals too. You can read more about how to know if you have a mold issue here:
http://www.herbaltransitions.com/DoYouHaveAMoldSensitivity.html
Even for people who have a genetic sensitivity to mold, they often do not realize it until they have some type of instigating incident in their life that lowers their defences. This could be an illness, a car wreck, an emotional blow etc. They general live in the moldy building and notice nothing. They may have more sore throats than others or a bit of asthma or even slightly achy joints etc. but nothing that really alerts them to the issue. Then they have something that is stressful happen. It could be physical, mental, or emotional and it decreases their defenses enough that now they have some type of disease or are chronically fatigued, etc. It often takes some other predisposing illness or accident for the mold sensitivity to unmask itself.
Inflammation in the body from mold sensitivity can show up as a variety of different diseases. Here is a list of signs and symptoms that are commonly associated with people who have a mold sensitivity:
General Signs & Symptoms
Fatigue, Weakness, Flu-like Symptoms, Exhaustion, insomnia, sensitivity to environment, Multiple diagnosis from various docs, symptoms that move around the body and change getting better and worse with no understanding as to why
Eye/Ear/Nose/Throat
Blurred or hazy vision, eyes sensitive to light, Eyes tear up, night blindness, ringing in the ears, hearing loss, dizziness, Sinus/nasal congestion, nose bleeds, sensitive to odors, Eyes puffy/dark circles, vocal cord polyps, nasal polyps, laryngitis or raspy voice, burning in throat/sore throat, sensitivity to environment
Musculoskeletal
Joint pain, shooting pains, Ice-pick pains, burning pains, stabbing pains, muscle cramps, Muscle aches, Weak muscles, Fleeting & moving pains, Tics, Spastic muscles, Charlie horses, Hands curl up like a claw, Toes/feet curl up, AM stiffness,
Lungs/Heart
Shortness of breath and tachycardia (fast heart beat) with exercise, cough, wheezing, asthma, swelling or edema, heart palpitations, heart pounds intermittently
Digestive/Liver/Urinary
Metallic taste in mouth, bile reflux, Nausea, Vomiting, Diarrhea, Constipation, Abdominal pain, Weight loss, Weight gain, Urinate a lot
Nervous/Endocrine/Immune
Insomnia, headache, dizziness, mental confusion, poor concentration, poor short term memory, Forget what you are doing, Can't remember names or words, Poor word recall, Disorientation, Decreased learning ability, Real thirsty, Low blood pressure, Poor temp regulation, Numbness, Tingling, Tremors, Vertigo, Parkinson's like symptoms, Mood swings, Anxiety, Irritable, Body temperature regulation issues, Difficult concentration, Lack of sex drive, swollen and painful lymph nodes. POTs or postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome is seen in some people.
Skin
Skin is sensitive, Skin is itchy, Feels like bugs crawling on skin, Feels like bugs stinging or biting but nothing there, Easy bruising, Itchy pimples, skin sores, Bumpy skin, Thickened skin, Skin peeling, Burning sensations, Red Face, Sweats - especially at night, static shocks out of the ordinary, Skin reacts to sun, even through clothing sometimes, vitiligo, cherry hemangiomas, dermatographia urticaria(when you can write on the skin- may be related to high C4a).
Extremeties
Cold Hands/feet, Discolored hands and feet such as white and red mottling, Parts go to sleep (numbness), tingling, Hands shake, Clawing of fingers or toes
Some physicians, including myself are under the opinion that many inflammatory diseases may be associated with mycotoxin exposure. This has not yet been proven although some practitioners have seen patients get better who have some of these illnesses when their mycotoxin exposure is treated. The list of inflammatory diseases include rheumatoid arthritis, atherosclerosis, inflammatory bowel disease, lupus, sjogren's syndrome, multiple sclerosis, raynaud's disease, alzheimer's disease.
Some of the diseases associated with mycotoxins
alzheimer’s disease (specifically inhalation alzheimer's), autism, some types of cancers, cardiovascular disease, chronic fatigue syndrome, diabetes, fibromyalgia, hypertension, rheumatoid arthritis, inflammatory bowel disease, lupus, Sjögren’s syndrome, Crohn’s disease, multiple sclerosis, Raynaud’s disease, kidney stones, and vasculitis.
There is a screening test that a person can take to see if they might have a mold sensitivity: It is called a VCS or visual contrast sensitivity test. It can be taken in a physicians office or online. Here is a link on line where you can purchase a series of tests. It is not expensive.
https://www.survivingmold.com/ Look for VCS online screening test on this page. I heard they may have made the first test free. Follow the directions as you need to be a specific distance from the screen and wear glasses if you usually wear them. There is a brief history looking for biotoxin illness also that they have you fill out.
My suggestion with what I currently know would be to tell you to take the VCS test and if positive, go camping this summer. - ASAP Make sure the tent or camper you camp in has absolutely no musty smell. If you have trouble smelling mold/mustiness have someone check the tent/camper out that can smell it. They should have no mold growing either. Camp for a couple weeks and spend as much time outside in the open air as possible. See if the family feels better.
If you are reacting to mold, what would need to happen, is to remove yourself from the moldy environment and get better. You could remediate your home but this does not always work for people. You may need to take binders and would probably need to take supplements/herbs to support your biotransformational system. There are also additional lifestyle changes that can help. If you think this is something you want to pursue, I can give you additional data.
If you are a person who is part of the 25% who genetically has trouble removing mycotoxins from your body, you would have to use binders to help remove the mycotoxins. Additionally, you would need to support your biotranformational system. If you want to read more about any of this. I have extensive data on mold and treatment at my website.
http://www.herbaltransitions.com/