I really enjoyed - and 'rich' is the word, per your very, very extensive
experience, and generosity. I think you pointed in the right direction with that example of the folks who joined for the community's 'purpose' where chosen, over those who joined for the 'communal' experience.
I have thought that sharing work for a shared goal might be stickier glue than rules and governance. I think the importance of the purpose might minimize sensitivity to 'getting my own way" - maybe even generate some gratitude for
freedom from the 'deciding' so more effort can be put to the 'doing'. Seems to be true for a lot of religious communities (although convents/monasteries have their squabbles too
Your expierence on the ranches confirmed same (would like to hear more about that
And it probably is what made your
PDC so appealing - eager like minds
I had read of two occasions where communication and integration only happened when a shared work
project occurred. One was a young couple living, short term, in an Amish community, where the wife easily 'joined' via sewing
bees, etc. But the young guy felt 'outside' until a building project brought the men together. Can't remember the other instance, but it was the shared work on a common goal that actually created 'membership'.
Looking forward to your progress
Thanks again!