Kyrt Ryder wrote:Depending on the nature of those special needsand the boy's age, safe tasks helping you figure out those repairs could be really good for the kid.
Not to derail the thread, lol - he is quite gifted intellectually. The issues are primarily violence and anger management related, along with some socialization issues. They are not sure if there was frontal lobe damage as an infant, or whether it is simply highly functional ASD (originally Asperger's) with a nice does of Oppositional Defiance Disorder due to being given away. The way I live is not how he was ever used to living, so that adjustment has been difficult. Our circumstances are not meager, just we've had some ongoing issues with the functionality of the house and systems.
I've taught him to use a drill (he helped assemble some furniture)
He is allowed, with supervision, to use the hammer and nails to practice hammering straight, and pull-out.
He had a small hatchet, with which he helped me to chop up forest found wood, but he snuck it out and then lost access when the neighbor saw him throwing it up into the air (I was working)
He's quite the firebug, so while I let him participate in outdoor fires (camping, just hanging out in the back), all flammables have to be hidden out of reach. The rocket oven outside at least isn't attached to the structure, so that lessens any huge impact he might have on the house if/when I get it built and it is a regularly used thing.
I taught him about spray paint on some small projects, but then he snuck the paint out and 'decorated' a lot of things I didn't want decorated :/
He has helped with the gardening, but it's not terribly interesting to him unless there are bugs or worms involved, lol.
And he helps with hauling water, particularly if he gets to fill the squirt gun when he's done!
It would be easier if I were more skilled, or was male and younger! He loses interest when I'm just trying to think out loud, but can be helpful when directed and supervised.
I'd be glad to have some suggestions, as I raised all girls and he's my first boy - totally different interests/activity levels/thinking patterns.
Maybe there is a better place than here for those types of suggestions/guidance (mods feel free to move this or whatever)