Jovian Finch

Thanks Nancy!
It was originally supposed to be a window but the builder was concerned that with the narrow stairwell I wouldn't be able to get any furniture upstairs, so we decided to swap to a door, hay-loft style. I open it in the summer for airflow (with a mosquito net), and plan to convert it to a Dutch door to get the best of both worlds. Could always add a deck/stairs too.

My solution to not filling up my composting toilets too quickly but presenting options for people with various comfort levels is thus:

If you prefer the indoor experience, fine. That's what the composting toilet is for. Great for cold nights when you don't have time to put on a coat and boots while doing the peepee dance.

For those a little more adventurous, I have a semi-enclosed (and overhead covered against rain) private spot just outside (akin to an outhouse without a pit or floor) where I have a 5 gallon bucket with the bottom cut out, and a "portable loo" style seat+lid attached. It is very easy for people accustomed to using toilets to sit on this, let loose, and then use tp as needed. The one caveat is this is for clear fluids only, and used tp should be placed in the receptacle next to the toilet to be burned or composed later. If you accidentally drop the tp into the bucket, it's very easy to retrieve since the liquid has usually soaked into the ground by this point.

This "outhouse" can be moved as needed when a less saturated spot is desirable.

I plan to upgrade this with a urine diverter to a jug that can be dumped onto my humanure pile or diluted for fertilizer, that way the seat can stay put but the liquid gold can go where it's most useful.

Adding images since they were having a hard time in the initial post.

There we go. I tried posting it fresh and it went through. I think the images caused it to stall on the first attempt and any subsequent tries with the same draft failed.
https://permies.com/t/368319/PNW-queer-millennial-aspiring-homesteaders#3737735

Glad it wasn't a case of over-aggressive censorship.

I've got a few acres of land in Skagit County near the conveniences of town, where I've got a great little start to a homestead, but it's a lot to manage on my own. I'm hoping to find someone who wants to share this life with me. I'm also interested in connecting with other homesteaders and permies in my area to network, skill share, make friends, etc.

I settled in my particular area because it's rural but also feels like a relatively safe pocket for lgbt+ folks. But this life isn't for everyone, and being lgbt already creates a small dating pool. So I figured I'd reach out here to make some connections.

The setup: I've got a semi-offgrid tiny home now, plan to build a "real" house soon inspired by Sunray Kelly's homestead. I've got a sanitary humanure setup, rainwater catchment, solar energy kit + grid power, and starting a hugelkultur.
I also have a house about 35 min away where I shower, do laundry, and fill potable water until I improve my rainwater filtration and plumbing setup.

My main limitation in building this up is TIME. I have a full time remote work job, plus manage an Airbnb property, plus trying to build up my home when weather allows. Having someone to share the load (and life) would make this all more possible and a lot more joyful, even if it's just on weekends or part-time.

Me: I'm a hopeless romantic. I'm quiet and gentle. I live for cuddles. I'm happy to eat things I didn't have to cook for myself, but also enjoy cooking for others. I'm neurospicy, and always striving to find the balance between planning and spontaneity. I'm ftm (he/they), and demisexual. I care deeply about land stewardship, human rights, personal autonomy/consent, kindness, community, and inclusion. I believe that clear intentional communication and boundaries are the cornerstones of a healthy relationship. I value interdependence and an egalitarian partnership; mutual support, not caretaking.

Compatibility notes: I practice intentional & consensual non-monogamy. I am firmly non-religious and an omnivore (we can differ on this as long as we respect each other's choices). I live with dogs and cats (allergy warning). I'm open to platonic relationships with just about anyone if we share core values (honesty, openness, respect for other beings and the land). For romance, I'm interested in queer people of any gender within about 10 years of my age (37). I prioritize in-person connection over digital/long-distance.

Please reach out if you'd like to know more and meet over coffee or a dog walk.

I tried posting here:
https://permies.com/f/42/singles

I'm using same browser and OS I used to post this topic so I think we can rule that out.

I tried posting again with no images. I also tried removing all my message text except a single sentence. But I did this by hitting "back" and editing so maybe trying to start a new topic will do something different.

I used the self-describing word "queer" in my subject line which can get flagged in some moderation tools (too aggressively in my opinion as it limits self identity discussion) so I'm wondering if that's the case - but silently failing without telling me why isn't particularly helpful.

Hi! I've been lurking here for a while and decided to make an account today so I could make a post.
I tried to post in the permaculture singles forum (I read the guidance from Paul first and made sure it was permie-focused), and when I clicked Submit it just took me to the forums landing page and when I check my profile it says I have made no posts.

Is there a minimum requirement as a new account before I can make a new topic? Is the singles category particularly restricted? Is it something in my post that got silently censored? Is it because I'm on mobile? I appreciate any tips you can offer. Thanks!

Fellow permie PNW software engineer here! Not a lady, but I'd love to connect as friends and do some skill-share. You can read more about my situation in my bio.