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I'm amazed at how many times some guys comment the same or very close to the same thing to multiple women on here.   It is quite humorous if you start looking.  It's like they have one go to pickup line.

Oh and I am a single, straight, christian, 6'3",farmer/rancher, that is implementing holistic and sustainable practices on my operation as well as other parts of life.  Looking for someone to share joys and stresses of life with as well as working and learning together.  Must be ok with a jealous girl dog haha.
 
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It would appear that being arrogant, doesn't attract much female interest either!
Give them a break, at least women respond to some of their attempts to start a conversation.
Many guys really don't have the confidence and skills to think of multiple ways to start a convesation. Many are lonely and haven't had the best of luck finding appropriate girlfriends.
Its tough enough in the mainstream world, with a high salary.
But when you are living a simple and tougher existence without all the frills and trinkets many women want. Often with a lot less time for social activities!
Finding a good future husband or wife can seem close to impossible.
 
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I wouldn't say that it is arrogant to acknowledge  a real situation.  Pointing it out or being as blunt about it may seem arrogant to some, but it might also encourage those that have fallen into to routine of repeatedly posting the same message to branch out a bit.  For me it isn't a game or a competition against anyone else, I hope everyone here finds happiness.
 
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None the less, being critical of your fellow single guys pick up lines, In your first sentence, can come across as put down.
Most loving balanced women will steer clear.
Hope you do find love.
 
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Thanks for the comments, the point is taken.  It wasn't meant as a put down.  I found the repetition of it all humorous and had a chuckle at it, not at individuals.  I hope others had a laugh about it instead of getting bent out of shape.
 
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Would it amuse you to know that...
I wasn't "bent out of shape" in the slightest.
Just a female, trying to give a little loving advice.
 
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Not single but I would suggest maybe adding your location and possibly some photos (of you and/or your farm!) Best of luck.
 
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Meg Mitchell. Thanks haha I honestly forgot about where I live, SW North Dakota.  I know I should put some pictures on here, but I really dislike "selfies".  Maybe I'll take some farm pictures and work up to a picture of myself.  It really makes no sense because there are plenty on facebook but I don't really like those either.

Dee...  What can I say?  I didn't mean that you were "bent out of shape," I just meant in general.  I really love this online stuff where humor, sarcasm, etc etc really aren't conveyed through typing very well.   Sarcasm obviously, so much is left for interpretation by who reads it and how they feel at that moment or just who they are.  I did have a laugh originally and I do enjoy a good conversation, even if it's typing and misinterpreting things back and forth. Ha
 
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You are a good sport. I like that.
Not liking selfies is a great quality also.
So much vanity in the world these days.
I really wish for you the best there is.
I live in a warmer climate and too far away, to be a prospect. Not to mention being over the hill.
If i were a lot younger i would be trying to get to know you better after you responding as you have.
May a lovely lady find you!
 
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Here are a few quick pics of my operation, some are new, some are not.
-There is my succulent garden, some are native to the area and I transplanted, some are not.
-Cutting hay... Pretty self-explanatory but my house and yard are in the background.   I'm rebuilding the old farm house.
-Garden Is from earlier this year.  I collect rainwater for the garden and mulch with alfalfa hay.
-Calves This is one of my Hereford cross calves.
-Solar- I am slowly changing my regular pasture wells over to solar with storage tanks.  
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Drew Gaugler wrote:I'm amazed at how many times some guys comment the same or very close to the same thing to multiple women on here.   It is quite humorous if you start looking.  It's like they have one go to pickup line.




Drew, it would be a safe bet that 100% of those guys are scammers.  I’m assuming all the women know this.
 
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Jay Grace, I'd like to assume too but every time I do that it bites me.   I just saw the humor of it but if they are scammers I hope the women know it or find out quick.   If they aren't, I hope those guys get more creative or maybe just real...    This online dating world can be such a mess sometimes.
 
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Easy solution to not liking selfies, have someone else hold the camera :)
Honestly it is hard to take someone seriously in terms of looking for a romantic partner online without a picture.. it usually means they are hiding something. If someone is really single and not ashamed of their appearance, they usually are willing to share a photo.
 
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Good point Sarah.   Im not hiding anything, I'd email you a pic.  It's just strange to put a picture out for people to focus on when I'm not focused on looks.   I want someone comfortable with and happy with  who they are and not caring what others think.   I'm focused on who a person as a whole.  I guess ask if you want a pic, I'll email.  
 
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Drew Gaugler wrote:Good point Sarah.   I'm not hiding anything, I'd email you a pic.  It's just strange to put a picture out for people to focus on when I'm not focused on looks.   I want someone comfortable with and happy with  who they are and not caring what others think.   I'm focused on who a person as a whole.  I guess ask if you want a pic, I'll email.  



I understand what you're saying. Are you looking for a platonic partner? If so, this makes sense. I feel that the means to privately contact (such as email address) is much more personal than a photograph, since it's a means of access, so I'm not willing to share something personal with a stranger on the internet who is unwilling to expose his face publicly. It's a matter of safety for me.
There are scores of men on online dating sites who are purposefully vague and/or withhold basic information for deceitful purposes. They seek to misrepresent themselves or delay exposing themselves so that they have time to sort out what the intended victim is vulnerable to so they can construct their false identity and/or manipulate accordingly. To me any deliberate omission of information commonly used to assess compatibility or interest is in itself deceitful.

I'm not at the point where I'd consider a romantic relationship with someone I don't find physically attractive. Celibacy is not so bad. Much better than being bamboozled.
I do have pictures listed in my own thread, however photobucket is a jerk and has introduced bandwidth limits and blurs my pictures now. I have yet to address this problem.

One time I started talking to this guy on the internet, he lived nearby and was writing sermons for a church and had built his own tinyhouse and all this stuff that sounded amazing. I thought for sure he was exactly the right person. The photo he sent looked okay, but it was kind of vague. Let me tell you. He didn't look anything like that picture, it was close up and angled to hide what he really looked like. When I told him (the very day we met!) that I didn't want to date him, he became very angry and said I should have told him sooner (the day we met) which was a very frightening situation for me. Fortunately I had a friend who lived nearby who came and got me out of a potentially dangerous situation. So I will be the first one to tell you, that you can easily think (mistakenly) that you know who someone is and that you have feelings for them from talking online, but reality can be completely different. This is a small snippet of the grave mishaps I call my dating experience, which prejudices me strongly against posters who are not as transparent as I'd like them to be. Insisting that you're honest and open without actually exposing yourself (not in the flasher sense) publicly is also a red flag for me.
If you're just not comfortable posting a picture of yourself on the internet, that's fine. It's your right and no one here is going to try to force you. I personally appreciate when people are just straightforward about these things.
 
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